Self Esteem Therapists in Surrey, BC
Many of the people I work with are thoughtful adults and competitive athletes who carry a lot — pressure to perform, questions about identity, or the quiet weight of transition. Some are navigating anxiety, grief, burnout, or relationship strain. Others are recovering from injury, facing performance slumps, or struggling with the fear of disappointing those who matter to them. Often, beneath the surface, there is self-criticism, exposure, or a sense that performance has become personal. They’re not looking to be “fixed.” They long for space to feel understood, regain steadiness, and reconnect with who they are beneath demands.
Many of the people I work with are thoughtful adults and competitive athletes who carry a lot — pressure to perform, questions about identity, or the quiet weight of transition. Some are navigating anxiety, grief, burnout, or relationship strain. Others are recovering from injury, facing performance slumps, or struggling with the fear of disappointing those who matter to them. Often, beneath the surface, there is self-criticism, exposure, or a sense that performance has become personal. They’re not looking to be “fixed.” They long for space to feel understood, regain steadiness, and reconnect with who they are beneath demands.
I offer trauma-informed counselling and EMDR for adults and teens looking to build confidence and find comfort in their authenticity. If you're always in your head, dissociated, struggle with shame or reactivity, or feel disconnected, let's work through it together. I support clients in filing away the past to help live in the present, through a science-informed lens. My passion lies in helping clients connect with their sense of self, confidence and creativity. I also have specialized training in supporting clients with ADHD and as a previous paramedic, enjoy working with first responders.
I offer trauma-informed counselling and EMDR for adults and teens looking to build confidence and find comfort in their authenticity. If you're always in your head, dissociated, struggle with shame or reactivity, or feel disconnected, let's work through it together. I support clients in filing away the past to help live in the present, through a science-informed lens. My passion lies in helping clients connect with their sense of self, confidence and creativity. I also have specialized training in supporting clients with ADHD and as a previous paramedic, enjoy working with first responders.
Do you wish for more balance, ease, and a deeper connection with yourself, but feel like you’re taking "one step forward, two steps back"? Anxiety and stress have a way of overshadowing some of the good moments in life, but if you’re here reading this, it means a part of you knows it can get better. There’s no doubt that working through challenges takes strength and resilience, but you deserve to find fulfillment and meaning in your everyday life.
Together we'll build on your inner resources, untangle what feels stuck, and discover ways of caring for yourself that feel more aligned, supportive, and sustainable.
Do you wish for more balance, ease, and a deeper connection with yourself, but feel like you’re taking "one step forward, two steps back"? Anxiety and stress have a way of overshadowing some of the good moments in life, but if you’re here reading this, it means a part of you knows it can get better. There’s no doubt that working through challenges takes strength and resilience, but you deserve to find fulfillment and meaning in your everyday life.
Together we'll build on your inner resources, untangle what feels stuck, and discover ways of caring for yourself that feel more aligned, supportive, and sustainable.
Through my clinical work and life experiences, I have found many of us as humans do not take enough time to slow down and attune to what is truly going on internally within ourselves, which can lead to unresolved issues in life. As a therapist, I use EMDR, CBT, parts work, and mindfulness and strength-based approaches to help empower my clients to practice embracing and embodying who they truly are. I believe when individuals start operating in a space of honesty with their true authentic selves, it can allow decisions to be made with more ease and help filter out unnecessary noise from the external world.
Through my clinical work and life experiences, I have found many of us as humans do not take enough time to slow down and attune to what is truly going on internally within ourselves, which can lead to unresolved issues in life. As a therapist, I use EMDR, CBT, parts work, and mindfulness and strength-based approaches to help empower my clients to practice embracing and embodying who they truly are. I believe when individuals start operating in a space of honesty with their true authentic selves, it can allow decisions to be made with more ease and help filter out unnecessary noise from the external world.
My sessions have zero judgment and I will bring new perspectives to you through my own experience and education with abusive relationships, eating disorder, anger issues, anxiety, depression and lack of self esteem.
I work with individuals and couples, Adults, young adults and adolescents. I practice CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, Family Therapy, Psychoanalytical Therapy and Interpersonal Therapy. I believe in you setting your own pace in a safe judgement free environment.
My sessions have zero judgment and I will bring new perspectives to you through my own experience and education with abusive relationships, eating disorder, anger issues, anxiety, depression and lack of self esteem.
I work with individuals and couples, Adults, young adults and adolescents. I practice CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, Family Therapy, Psychoanalytical Therapy and Interpersonal Therapy. I believe in you setting your own pace in a safe judgement free environment.
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BCACC, I work with individuals who have a wide range of needs but are all working towards a common goal - developing a deeper understanding of themselves. I have experience working with both adolescents & adults who are overcoming various obstacles - from depression and anxiety, to trauma and grief, to vocational and relationship issues. Whatever the situation they are facing, I truly view all clients as resilient individuals who can recover and thrive from such difficult life experiences.
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BCACC, I work with individuals who have a wide range of needs but are all working towards a common goal - developing a deeper understanding of themselves. I have experience working with both adolescents & adults who are overcoming various obstacles - from depression and anxiety, to trauma and grief, to vocational and relationship issues. Whatever the situation they are facing, I truly view all clients as resilient individuals who can recover and thrive from such difficult life experiences.
You might be doing everything right and still feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck in patterns you can’t quite explain. The truth is, our nervous systems hold onto the past, shaping how we relate, cope, and move through life. We’ll explore the deeper layers: the unconscious patterns formed early on, the ways your nervous system protects you, and how to move from coping to actually living. You’re not broken. Your reactions, shutdowns, overthinking, and people-pleasing all have a story. They were built from what you went through, and they’re your nervous system trying to keep you safe.
You might be doing everything right and still feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck in patterns you can’t quite explain. The truth is, our nervous systems hold onto the past, shaping how we relate, cope, and move through life. We’ll explore the deeper layers: the unconscious patterns formed early on, the ways your nervous system protects you, and how to move from coping to actually living. You’re not broken. Your reactions, shutdowns, overthinking, and people-pleasing all have a story. They were built from what you went through, and they’re your nervous system trying to keep you safe.
Hello, I’m Victoria, a Registered Clinical Counsellor, I offer trauma therapy to adult clients and teens.
Many of my clients come to me feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, stuck, numb or flooded with emotion. We all have a deep need for connection, yet life’s experiences can leave us feeling isolated or unsafe, making it difficult to fully engage in life and relationships.
As both a client and a therapist, I understand the courage it takes to step into therapy. I approach this work with deep respect, care, and sincerity, creating a space where you feel safe, seen, and supported.
Hello, I’m Victoria, a Registered Clinical Counsellor, I offer trauma therapy to adult clients and teens.
Many of my clients come to me feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, stuck, numb or flooded with emotion. We all have a deep need for connection, yet life’s experiences can leave us feeling isolated or unsafe, making it difficult to fully engage in life and relationships.
As both a client and a therapist, I understand the courage it takes to step into therapy. I approach this work with deep respect, care, and sincerity, creating a space where you feel safe, seen, and supported.
Life can feel like a lot sometimes. Stress, anxiety, or major changes can build up and leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of what to do next. Many people come to counselling simply needing a place to talk things through and feel understood.
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor, I offer a compassionate space where you can show up just as you are. Together, we’ll gently explore what you’re experiencing, make sense of your thoughts and emotions, and find practical ways to help you cope, heal, and move forward at a pace that feels right for you.
Life can feel like a lot sometimes. Stress, anxiety, or major changes can build up and leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of what to do next. Many people come to counselling simply needing a place to talk things through and feel understood.
As a Registered Clinical Counsellor, I offer a compassionate space where you can show up just as you are. Together, we’ll gently explore what you’re experiencing, make sense of your thoughts and emotions, and find practical ways to help you cope, heal, and move forward at a pace that feels right for you.
Socrates said "to find yourself, think for yourself". Our thoughts shape our perceptions and often affects how we may respond to experiences. We have been conditioned for approval, acceptance and worthiness, how we internalize this programming into our conscious and subconscious minds can lead to self doubt, self criticism and self sabotaging choices. These thoughts become patterns and beliefs that often get played out in how we function in relationships. Learn how to honor your unmet needs, to find healthier ways of managing these conflicts and ways to deepen your connection to self. Awaken yourself to new possibilities.
Socrates said "to find yourself, think for yourself". Our thoughts shape our perceptions and often affects how we may respond to experiences. We have been conditioned for approval, acceptance and worthiness, how we internalize this programming into our conscious and subconscious minds can lead to self doubt, self criticism and self sabotaging choices. These thoughts become patterns and beliefs that often get played out in how we function in relationships. Learn how to honor your unmet needs, to find healthier ways of managing these conflicts and ways to deepen your connection to self. Awaken yourself to new possibilities.
My ideal clients are children, youth, and adults who are seeking a safe, non-judgmental, and empathetic space to express themselves freely. They may be experiencing anxiety, emotional overwhelm, trauma, life transitions, or difficulty expressing their thoughts and feelings. I work especially well with children and youth who communicate through play, creativity, and movement, and who benefit from a therapist who honours their autonomy and meets them where they are.
My ideal clients are children, youth, and adults who are seeking a safe, non-judgmental, and empathetic space to express themselves freely. They may be experiencing anxiety, emotional overwhelm, trauma, life transitions, or difficulty expressing their thoughts and feelings. I work especially well with children and youth who communicate through play, creativity, and movement, and who benefit from a therapist who honours their autonomy and meets them where they are.
The concept of our “self” can be approached in numerous ways. In my practice, I see our consciousness and actions as driven by parts. These parts can operate with various outcomes with a baseline of wanting to do good in your life; however, in different situations, these parts can do more harm than we want. The mind and body are such complex systems that it would be foolish to think that a single method will work for everyone. My practice sees a combination of theories including Internal Family Systems and Narrative Therapy.
The concept of our “self” can be approached in numerous ways. In my practice, I see our consciousness and actions as driven by parts. These parts can operate with various outcomes with a baseline of wanting to do good in your life; however, in different situations, these parts can do more harm than we want. The mind and body are such complex systems that it would be foolish to think that a single method will work for everyone. My practice sees a combination of theories including Internal Family Systems and Narrative Therapy.
Your emotions are valid…feel them. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s common for transitions in life to bring up heavy emotions. This heaviness may be surfacing for you as feelings of being stuck, anxiety, frustration, hopelessness and even fear. You are taking the first step in acknowledging these difficult experiences and seeking support in working through them to live a more fulfilling life.
Your emotions are valid…feel them. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s common for transitions in life to bring up heavy emotions. This heaviness may be surfacing for you as feelings of being stuck, anxiety, frustration, hopelessness and even fear. You are taking the first step in acknowledging these difficult experiences and seeking support in working through them to live a more fulfilling life.
I specialize in working with neurodivergent and LGBTQIA2S+ individuals and offer an affirming space for kink, polyamory, and gender-diverse identities, grounded in dignity, autonomy, cultural humility, and empathy. My therapeutic style is collaborative, curious, and nonjudgmental. I use an integrative approach, drawing from multiple therapies and my own lived experience with mental health challenges, to help you find strategies that support your goals. My own journey informs my commitment to honesty, compassion, and growth through change.
I specialize in working with neurodivergent and LGBTQIA2S+ individuals and offer an affirming space for kink, polyamory, and gender-diverse identities, grounded in dignity, autonomy, cultural humility, and empathy. My therapeutic style is collaborative, curious, and nonjudgmental. I use an integrative approach, drawing from multiple therapies and my own lived experience with mental health challenges, to help you find strategies that support your goals. My own journey informs my commitment to honesty, compassion, and growth through change.
Do you struggle with your relationship with food and your body? Have you ever wished you could find peace from food stress, anxiety, and guilt? Have you ever wondered whether it was possible to feel confident in a body while carrying the weight of the world's judgements and pressures? Body and food peace is a radical pursuit in the face of diet culture and weight stigma, and it is a journey I would be honored to navigate together with you. I work with my clients to explore body image shame, diet culture, intuitive eating, emotion regulation, and authentic living.
Do you struggle with your relationship with food and your body? Have you ever wished you could find peace from food stress, anxiety, and guilt? Have you ever wondered whether it was possible to feel confident in a body while carrying the weight of the world's judgements and pressures? Body and food peace is a radical pursuit in the face of diet culture and weight stigma, and it is a journey I would be honored to navigate together with you. I work with my clients to explore body image shame, diet culture, intuitive eating, emotion regulation, and authentic living.
I am a Sikh-Canadian cis-woman who is honoured and grateful to live, learn and play on the unceded lands of the Coast Salish Peoples. Being a person of colour, understanding culture, identity and the integration of values is an evolving process. Having worked with families over the past decade, I work from an empowerment lens, helping you understand how mental health, shame, guilt, anxiety and trauma have played a role in your life. Sessions are focused on understanding your values, beliefs and identity challenges as we create a plan to overcome them, building resiliency within the process.
I am a Sikh-Canadian cis-woman who is honoured and grateful to live, learn and play on the unceded lands of the Coast Salish Peoples. Being a person of colour, understanding culture, identity and the integration of values is an evolving process. Having worked with families over the past decade, I work from an empowerment lens, helping you understand how mental health, shame, guilt, anxiety and trauma have played a role in your life. Sessions are focused on understanding your values, beliefs and identity challenges as we create a plan to overcome them, building resiliency within the process.
My approach to psychotherapy is to facilitate the much-needed relational healing space through connectedness and compassion coupled with a very committed journey to find possible remedies of pain and trauma. This is made possible through a unique personalized treatment protocol inspired by cognitive, psychodynamic, behavioural, somatic, relational and spiritual approaches. I make use of the approaches from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Somatic Experiencing Techniques, Hypnotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programing, various trauma and PTSD treatment methods, attachment and relational approaches in treatment. Additional to my registration with the College of Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO) and membership with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counselors, and an affiliate member with Canadian Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT).
My approach to psychotherapy is to facilitate the much-needed relational healing space through connectedness and compassion coupled with a very committed journey to find possible remedies of pain and trauma. This is made possible through a unique personalized treatment protocol inspired by cognitive, psychodynamic, behavioural, somatic, relational and spiritual approaches. I make use of the approaches from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Somatic Experiencing Techniques, Hypnotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programing, various trauma and PTSD treatment methods, attachment and relational approaches in treatment. Additional to my registration with the College of Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO) and membership with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counselors, and an affiliate member with Canadian Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT).
If you’re feeling stuck in patterns of self-doubt and low self-esteem, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to navigate it by yourself.
My approach is warm, collaborative, and grounded in the belief that you already hold the capacity for healing. I use evidence-based and experiential approaches drawing on the Satir Growth Model which views each person as capable of change. I specialize in helping individuals understand themselves more deeply, build confidence, and create meaningful changes.
If you’re feeling stuck in patterns of self-doubt and low self-esteem, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to navigate it by yourself.
My approach is warm, collaborative, and grounded in the belief that you already hold the capacity for healing. I use evidence-based and experiential approaches drawing on the Satir Growth Model which views each person as capable of change. I specialize in helping individuals understand themselves more deeply, build confidence, and create meaningful changes.
I work with people seeking a stronger sense of purpose, increased self-esteem, self-acceptance, and clarity in their lives.
Together, we will create a safe and trusting space to heal from pain, gain increased resilience to stress, and rediscover trust in ourselves and others to have meaningful relationships. I have a Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy Certification, and I help couples develop effective communication skills to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner.
I work with people seeking a stronger sense of purpose, increased self-esteem, self-acceptance, and clarity in their lives.
Together, we will create a safe and trusting space to heal from pain, gain increased resilience to stress, and rediscover trust in ourselves and others to have meaningful relationships. I have a Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy Certification, and I help couples develop effective communication skills to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner.
We'll focus on healing parentification trauma, learning to set (and actually stick to) boundaries, reducing people-pleasing behaviours and perfectionism, detaching your self-worth from your productivity, and learning to prioritize your needs over those of others.
Therapy for eldest daughters, by an eldest daughter.
Do you often feel responsible for everyone's emotions?
Do you default to caretaker/leadership roles in your relationships?
Do you struggle to say no, even when your calendar (and nervous system) are overloaded?
Do you feel burned out, but somehow still feel like you're not doing enough?
While not a formal diagnosis, Eldest Daughter Syndrome highlights the complex experience of firstborn daughters that shapes their self-concept and often results in chronic burnout, perfectionism, people-pleasing behaviours, and anxiety. It is a shared experience amongst many, including myself!
We'll focus on healing parentification trauma, learning to set (and actually stick to) boundaries, reducing people-pleasing behaviours and perfectionism, detaching your self-worth from your productivity, and learning to prioritize your needs over those of others.
Therapy for eldest daughters, by an eldest daughter.
Do you often feel responsible for everyone's emotions?
Do you default to caretaker/leadership roles in your relationships?
Do you struggle to say no, even when your calendar (and nervous system) are overloaded?
Do you feel burned out, but somehow still feel like you're not doing enough?
While not a formal diagnosis, Eldest Daughter Syndrome highlights the complex experience of firstborn daughters that shapes their self-concept and often results in chronic burnout, perfectionism, people-pleasing behaviours, and anxiety. It is a shared experience amongst many, including myself!
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Self Esteem Counsellors
When should a person seek therapy for low self-esteem?
When self-esteem problems begin to disrupt the healthy daily functioning of an individual, it may be a good time to look into therapy. If a person finds that they are not engaging with friends for fear of being judged, not completing work assignments because they don’t think they’re capable, or not finding romantic love because they don’t feel they’re worthy of it, a therapist may be able to help.
What are the signs of low self-esteem?
Low self-esteem is a common issue that can affect a person's mental and emotional well-being. Some common signs of low self-esteem include negative self-talk, perfectionism, social anxiety, difficulty making decisions, an inability to set boundaries, people-pleasing, and others. A lack of belief in oneself or one’s abilities and a feeling of not being worthy or deserving underlie most of these characteristics.
What causes low self-esteem?
Feelings of low self-worth can begin in childhood or adulthood. Being raised by a highly critical parent or growing up feeling constant disapproval can stay with a person well into adulthood. Specific issues in adulthood may also be a cause of low self-esteem. An unhappy relationship, a dysfunctional work or school experience can impact a person’s feelings of self-worth.
How can therapy improve self-esteem?
Therapists can help identify negative thought patterns that keep the client stuck in a loop of destructive self-talk and develop coping skills to change the voice in their head. A therapist can help with goal-setting, so that clients are better able to stay on task and build confidence from successfully completing work they’re proud of. Coaching a client on how to better communicate can improve relationships. These skills can result in someone with low self-esteem feeling empowered and living with less fear.