Emotionally Focused Therapists in Langley, BC

Life Wise was founded to support the active healing process for individuals & couples who are ready for change. We are committed to informing your journey overcoming Depression, Anxiety, Addiction, Trauma and relational challenges through a compassionate lens. We strongly believe in the power of connection, necessary for cultivating growth. However, past wounds can show up in our relationships, making true connection difficult to find. At Life Wise, our goal is to create a therapeutic connection that allows you to explore your story in a way that is empowering and constructive.

I offer support to people who are struggling with anxiety, burnout, return to work, PTSD, substance use, unrealistic expectations, self defeating behaviors and relationship difficulties. These symptoms may be rooted in trauma, abuse or wounds from the past or you may be experiencing them for the first time; no matter your circumstance, I am here to listen. When you are struggling, you may experience feelings of overwhelm, hopelessness, shame, guilt or exhaustion. This can feel incredibly lonely and destabilizing, it may feel like the joy has been lost in your life.

We are a group of psychotherapists who are committed to providing you with a safe and accepting space where together we can find what matters to you, to find your energy for life and connection to self. We work together to increase your strength and resilience to deal with life's uncertainty, frustrations and disappointments. Painful experiences will at times be in our lives and when we can tolerate and move through them the easier life is. Our job is to create a safe space to explore your thoughts, emotions, and behaviour. Experience has shown us that human connection and understanding are the conditions for change.

I am a Certified Life Coach specializing in self discovery - I will help you to explore who you are, how you got to where you are, and where you want to be. Creating inner balance and self-trust will bring you the happiness and satisfaction you seek.

I believe the client is the expert in their life and I am honoured to walk along side them for a short while. I believe in the mind-body connection and work collaboratively in addressing the whole person in all domains (physical, emotional, cognitive, social and spiritual). I also believe it take a courageous person to seek out counselling support and I am committed to building a trusting and respectful relationship with all clients.

I try to help individuals find their inner worth and strengths. I believe that people can continue to learn, grow and change. It is important for you to feel comfortable with the therapist you decide to see. One of the things that I value the most within therapy is the importance of building an honest and genuine relationship. I try to meet people where they are at and offer services from a strengths-based and positive approach.

In sessions, one of my goals is to be mindful and offer a safe place for clients to share personal thoughts and experiences. Being present in each moment allows me to focus on a strong therapeutic relationship with my clients. This relationship then leads to us collaboratively establishing goals as well as working toward goals. I am available in Abbotsford on Mondays, Tuesdays and Saturdays and at Living Wellness Center in South Surrey on Wednesdays and Fridays.

The Power of Perception... The greatest area of growth my clients experience from our work together is the discovery that their problems are not what they thought they were. I'll help you move from a place of hopelessness, frustration and fear to understanding and peace. Struggle is a "threshold" of transition and can be your power spot. Although this can be difficult, discomfort acts as a motivator to create change. That is its job. You are at a place where all the possibilities and richness of life are yours to be found. I can help you take your next steps.

This imperfect moment is the entryway into everything you may want. However, when in the midst of a difficult moment people don't often remember the potential it may hold for healing and fulfillment. Counselling with Paula is an invitation to deepen your engagement with the life you have, since that is the best way to have the life you want. Therapy can guide you to practice the skillful means necessary to release habits that perpetuate dis-ease and discontent in order to transform difficult experiences into opportunities for creativity, healing, wisdom and fulfillment.

I am interested in helping individuals and couples to set and achieve goals that can assist them to make changes in their lives. Change can be a difficult process, but also one that can be very rewarding and fulfilling. Whether you are suffering from depression, relationship problems, grief, anxiety, trauma, stress, or emotional/behavioural issues, talking about your difficulties in an atmosphere of safety and encouragement can help. I want to encourage meaning and purpose in your life while being sensitive to your religious or cultural orientation.

Practical and meaningful results. If you want results then I can help. Free 30 minute initial consult. I specialize in marriage & family counselling, anger management, trauma & abuse, grief/loss counselling, spiritual issues and parenting. I will work collaboratively with you to determine the best way to help you in achieving the goals and hopes you have for your marriage, family or individual needs. I believe that you have the answers within you to achieve the change you want. I can help you get to those answers and assist you in building a better marriage, or peaceful family or gaining more insight into your issues.

We all have a fundamental need to connect and to be heard. I believe sharing our struggles and pain is often the first step towards healing. I provide a compassionate and safe space to support clients as they navigate life transitions, immediate and ongoing concerns, and personal growth. You don't have to do it alone. Together we will explore ways to harness your courage for change and work collaboratively, using your strengths, insights and life experiences to fulfill your goals. I am an optimist and believe change is possible at any stage of life. I'm here to help.

Do you often feel anxiety crowding your thoughts? Or do you worry about “little things” and cannot understand why others dismiss your worries so easily? You are not alone. Together we can work on coping strategies to help manage your anxiety, stress, and general overwhelming feelings in daily life. I bring experience, education, and passion to my practice. With over a decade of professional experience counselling children, teens, and adults, I help support them through anxiety, stress, parenting, spiritual questions, and other life challenges.

Your life is important, and so are your problems. Getting beyond them is not always a straightforward path, and often you need timely help and experienced counsel. In short you need someone you can be safe with and trust to help you find the solutions to your situation. That may be where you find yourself today. I have thirty-five years of counselling experience in dealing with people that are in distress, and facing life problems that are troubling. Whether it is about yourself or a relationship of importance to you, I can be of help.

I can help you to make powerful and lasting changes in your life. Supporting individuals, teens, couples, and families for over twelve years I am able to provide excellent therapeutic care. The journey of growth can be exciting as you uncover new possibilities. You simply require a wise, experienced, and compassionate guide to help bring you to your strength and wisdom, so that you can joyfully embrace life. Being well versed in a broad spectrum of creative and empowering therapeutic approaches allows me to use a tailored approach to best support your specific personality, learning style and particular concerns.

Are you struggling with relationship conflicts, feeling trapped in negative coping patterns, or grappling with deep-rooted anxiety or depression? Are past experiences creating barriers in your personal growth? I understand how overwhelming these struggles can be, and how they can affect your life and your relationships. As a relational therapist, I am here to help you navigate these challenges. My name is Claire De Boer, a Registered Clinical Counsellor based on the serene border of Surrey and White Rock, British Columbia.