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Forgiveness Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Are you forgiving?

The act of forgiveness entails the release of anger and resentment toward a person who has done you wrong. This act does not mean you have to condone or excuse the misdeed, nor do you need to reconcile with the wrongdoer. Forgiveness, however, does release you from the bitterness that may be holding you back. See where you fall on this forgiveness scale.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how strongly you agree or disagree with the statement.

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Agree
1. I experience continued anger over a person who hurt me.
Disagree
Agree
2. I see their perspective on the situation.
Disagree
Agree
3. I understand why they behaved in the way they did.
Disagree
Agree
4. I can still be friendly with this person.
Disagree
Agree
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5. I feel bitter about this person who hurt me.
Disagree
Agree
6. I believe they can change for the better.
Disagree
Agree
7. I am willing to interact with a person again, even if they have hurt me.
Disagree
Agree
8. I wish the person well even if they were hurtful.
Disagree
Agree
9. I want to be understanding about their actions.
Disagree
Agree
10. I feel chronically disgruntled when I think about this person.
Disagree
Agree
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11. I have little need to punish the person for what they did.
Disagree
Agree
12. I am resentful of a co-worker who performed poorly on a joint project.
Disagree
Agree
13. I avoid speaking to this person.
Disagree
Agree
14. I avoid criticizing the person who has wronged me.
Disagree
Agree
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15. I cut myself slack for making a mistake.
Disagree
Agree
16. I can still find some good qualities in a person who has wronged me.
Disagree
Agree
17. I cut my co-worker slack for making a faux pas.
Disagree
Agree
18. If someone disappoints me for an uncontrollable reason, I cut them off.
Disagree
Agree
19. I make peace with the past and feel good-hearted toward people.
Disagree
Agree
20. I avoid criticizing myself for my mistakes.
Disagree
Agree

Who Is This Test For?

This test is for anyone who wants to examine their ability to forgive. It’s designed for adults and is not intended to be prescriptive.

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Sources

Forgiveness can improve mental and physical health. Monitor on Psychology. American Psychological Association.

Forgiveness, Stress, and Health: A 5-Week Dynamic Parallel Process Study. Annals of Behavioral Medicine.

Forgiveness therapy: An empirical guide for resolving anger and restoring hope. American Psychological Association. Enright, R. D., Fitzgibbons, R. P. 

Measures of Forgiveness: Self-Report, Physiological, Chemical, and Behavioral Indicators. Measures of Personality and Social Psychological Constructs. E.L. Worthington, et al.