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Are You Being Love Bombed?

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Is your relationship too good to be true?

Love bombing refers to a pattern of over-the-top displays of love and affection in the early stages of a romantic relationship, often followed by a poor relationship outcome. Take this test to find out if you could be a target of love bombing.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how often the statement applies to you.

Never
Never
Sometimes
Always
Always
1. I’m surprised by how intensely this person flatters me.
Never
Always
2. This person texts, emails, or calls me constantly.
Never
Always
3. I’ve been surprised by the extravagance of the gifts I’ve received.
Never
Always
4. I don’t have enough time for friends and family as a result of the relationship.
Never
Always
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5. This person said, “I love you,” early in the relationship.
Never
Always
6. This person gets angry when they’re unable to get what they want from me.
Never
Always
7. I think that we’re rushing the relationship.
Never
Always
8. I think this person just says what I want to hear.
Never
Always
9. This person has concealed important information from me.
Never
Always
10. This romance feels like a movie.
Never
Always
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11. This person talked about the next steps in the relationship before I was ready.
Never
Always
12. This person gets annoyed if I don’t respond to messages quickly.
Never
Always
13. This person ignores my boundaries.
Never
Always
14. I feel overwhelmed by this person.
Never
Always
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15. I feel like I have an unusually strong connection with this individual.
Never
Always
16. This person tries to control aspects of my personal life.
Never
Always
17. This person breaks promises.
Never
Always
18. This person’s desire for public displays of affection makes me uncomfortable.
Never
Always
19. This person has gone through my phone or read my journal.
Never
Always
20. This person accuses me of not loving them enough.
Never
Always

Who Is This Test For?

This test is for anyone who suspects they are being targeted via love bombing. It is designed for adults and is not intended to be diagnostic. 

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How to Get Help

If you think you might be the target of love bombing, seeking the help of a therapist can be beneficial. Find a professional near you in the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Sources

Buss DM, Gomes M, Higgins DS, Lauterbach K. Tactics of manipulation.

Hailes, H.P., and Goodman, L.A. Gaslighting in Relationships Scale (GRS). 

Schoenleber, M. et al. Brief Pathological Narcissism Inventory (B-PNI).

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