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How Controlling Are You?

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Can you go with the flow?

People differ in their desire to control the world around them; some are easygoing and flexible while others are domineering and rigid—which may harm their well-being and relationships. Take this test to see where you fall on the spectrum.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how often the statement applies to you.

Disagree
Strongly Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree
1. I feel the need to be in control of most situations.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
2. At work, I micromanage others or try to control all parts of a project.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
3. I restrict how my loved ones spend their time and who they see.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
4. I tend to manipulate situations to get my desired outcomes.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
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5. I’m happy to defer to others when making group decisions.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
6. I want to have complete control over my emotions.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
7. In a romantic relationship, I tend to control the finances.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
8. I make others do things that they may not want to do.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
9. I sometimes put people down when they get “too big for their boots”.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
10. I trust my partner and don’t question their whereabouts or behaviors.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
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11. When I get sick, I feel anxious that I can’t control my body.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
12. I tend to micromanage others' activities.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
13. Self-discipline is important to me.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
14. I find it difficult to accept other people's decisions without objection.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
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15. I feel responsible for others' happiness.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
16. I feel comfortable in new situations, even if I don't know what will happen.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
17. When dealing with a medical problem, I'm anxious to understand all aspects of it.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
18. I pester people if they’re not doing what I want.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
19. I expect others to follow my instructions.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
20. It’s important to maintain control in stressful situations.
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree

Who Is This Test For?

This test is for anyone who wants to explore their need for control. It is intended for adults and is not intended to be diagnostic. 

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How to Get Help

If you feel worried that you’re too controlling, in your relationships, identity, or career, seeking the help of a therapist can be beneficial. Find a professional near you in the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Sources

Graham-Kevar, et al. Controlling Behavior Scale - Revised CBS-R.

L. Uziel, et al. Desire for Control Scale (DFC).

K. Wallston. Multidimensional Health Locus of Control (MHLC) Scales. Form A.