hello Dr. Allen, I do appreciate your work in the area of reconciling the generations, I read some of your articles. Sounds like a wonderful project for people with better functioning parents, but my father is in prison for treating his girls as sexual snacks and a mom who baaarely acknowledges her enabling. Isn't it ever okay to just cut them loose and live my own life... I just don't feel there is anything to gain and lot to loose to keep going on the cycle of pain with my mother (my dad I've written off)