Thank you for writing, and I'm so sorry to hear about your parent's death. I understand that in the sense of sharing your refound health and clarity with them, and of coming to know them in ways not coloured by your illness, you feel that your recovery has come too late. But for the rest of your life, and everything they would have wanted for you, it hasn't. And remember too that although change without tragedy would have been wonderful, tragedy without change was possible too, and that would have been the real tragedy.

When you can, let the sadness and the regret be the bittersweet reminders to live now as you wish you'd lived while they were alive, and to remember them in every happiness you find, and to imagine their happiness in seeing you truly alive again.

Thank you for sharing this to help others learn from what you couldn't do, and from what you now have.

Emily

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