A loving relationship can be an oasis in uncertain times, but nurturing it requires attention, honesty, openness, vulnerability, and gratitude.
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No , you are not the same person hardly at all in fact , but you do have passionate memories , like the hard drive kind .
A female friend and I spent the night in a phone booth in -40 degrees on a winter night because I couldn't get home 13 miles away , it was too late to hitchhike , yes the era of hitchhiking. I was concerned for the both of us (me 17 her 14 ugh !) and her coming from such a large family who would never let her die in the cold , I on the other hand didn't have that pleasure , but she stayed with me even when I questioned her as to why . I look back and it remains an embarrassing humiliating event however there is a passionate memory to that. She was not my girlfriend her sister was ...a family of 18 girls and 1 boy between her fathers 2 wives, I digress; the point... many years later we talked (Facebook) about all the reunions I missed . Long gone distance friends tried to encourage me to attend with reunion pictures and as many pics of me they could all put together including me as best man at best friends wedding) and no matter how hard I tried to force myself to go I just couldn't...she said , "no worries, none of these people are the same people as in our youth , what are the odds of any relationship forming or reforming between any of us , however if you ever want to stop by when you are where I live now , you are welcome" . We are all near retirement age and I have never taken her up on that nor is it likely I ever will, not in an ill way , but in all reality we are strangers.
Key points to this are ; what could you and your best buddy talk about as you stroll down the street with your walkers or canes or what kind of weird image could be drawn between you and that guy or girl you had wild sex with 10 times a day ? of course while walking along with the same cane or walker as your distance buddy in your Cheech and Chong years, however I stumbled across a fellow employee not seen in 37 years I introduced my wife and kids he introduced his dog ( in Central Park) I asked him if I could take his picture he obliged . The Conversation you ask ??? Hip replacements.... .....
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