Years ago I had a live-in partner. The closer we got to marriage the worse he behaved. After years of his closer-distancer relationship style I got fed up and broke up with him. A year later I met another man. I was very attracted to him and he was absolutely nothing like my live-in partner. This man had a good job in a leadership position, didn't have a substance abuse problem and had no issues with marriage. However, my gut told me that something might not be right and I moved on without him. Here is where things get interesting. Year later I found the second man on social media. He now has the same job as my live-in partner. He's been married and divorced twice since I knew him, and is depressed and sad just like my former live-in partner and has the same victimhood demeanor. I really surprised I almost picked the same guy twice. Ack!