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Right, Fletch?
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Does being more inclusive benefit your wellbeing?
Diversity and inclusiveness is about being open to others who are not like your– perhaps a different age, gender or ethnic background. It is about adjusting the way you communicate to get on with people from different cultures, building relationships with people from a very different background to yourself, and speaking up to challenge stereotyping and prejudice.
In the UK – and in the USA if the media reporting of the Presidential campaign we hear is true – there has been much talk about the problems caused by immigration and many views expressed which are the opposite of being inclusive and open. In this context, readers might like to hear about a surprising benefit that comes from being more diverse and inclusive in behavior and views towards others.
We ran a Do Something Different digital program in a global company to develop greater diversity and inclusiveness among the staff. Few organizations would dispute the benefits of developing inclusive working practices. Of course it is good professional practice, backed by legal and compliance reasons, and many also see it produces a happier workforce, or even that it might help sales. These are good reasons. But we were also interested in whether being more inclusive might have personal benefits for staff – in terms of their wellbeing. We measured wellbeing using a reliable scale composed of items about coping, happiness, physical health, decision-making, being valued, talking to others, having meaning in life and close relationships.
What the employees did
Employees on the Do Something Different Diversity & Inclusion program began by completing an online diagnostic suite about their working habits in respect of diversity and inclusiveness, wellbeing, openness to change and personality. The inclusiveness and personality diagnostics were used to personalize their program, so people could be asked to try out behaviors that were not already part of their behavioral repertoire. Then, over the following 6-week period, each person was sent small behaviors, or “Do’s”, to carry out – a few each week. Do’s were delivered digitally during their normal working day and supported by other material such as motivational messages. The Do’s could be done quickly but did require people to expand their normal behaviors a little. Employees also had access to a ‘Do Zone’, an online community where they could share their experiences in a variety of forms and also record their progress.
Our results are based on an analysis of data from 1,153 working age employees at the start of the program, and 261 of them who were followed up with repeat diagnostics after the 6 weeks.
The program was designed to promote inclusive behaviors and this made it possible to examine if changes in inclusive behaviors over time also resulted in changes to wellbeing and openness to change.
Some results:
The full results and the White Paper are available to download here (http://dsd.me/business/the-evidence/). The results showed a strong relationship between being diverse/inclusive and wellbeing – the statistical tests produced highly significant effects. To show these relationships in a more concrete way than statistical tests, we categorized people as low, medium or high in inclusiveness and wellbeing, according to their scores. The results are shown in the table below:
Low wellbeing Medium wellbeing High wellbeing
Low inclusiveness 28 100 27
Medium inclusiveness 80 476 291
High inclusiveness 5 47 99
To put these results in another way:
The aim of the Do Something Different program was to increase diversity and inclusiveness in the employees. So we also examined the benefits of becoming more inclusive during the program. We did this by looking at the changes in scores from the start to the end of the program – to see if people’s well-being increased as they practiced more diverse and inclusive behaviors. There was a clear dose-response relationship as predicted (the correlation between the changes in inclusiveness scores and the changes in wellbeing scores were highly statistically significant, r = 0.32, p = 2x10-8). So the more someone’s inclusiveness increased, the more their wellbeing scores improved.
All aspects of wellbeing were linked to inclusiveness:
We also looked at the effects of being more inclusive on the eight different aspects of wellbeing we measured: coping, happiness, physical health, decision-making, being valued, talking to others, having meaning in life and close relationships. All of these eight aspects of wellbeing showed statistically significant relationships with how inclusive people were. The strongest links were with ‘talking to others’ and ‘decision making’. with (perhaps not surprisingly). Five of the eight areas also showed changes in wellbeing scores linked to the changes in inclusiveness within the 6 weeks of the intervention (coping with problems, decision making, feeling valued, being happy, physical health).
Why does intolerance of others affect our wellbeing?
These findings indicate that being biased and less open to others may be detrimental to one’s health and wellbeing. Having a flexible perspective to others suggests a flexible approach to life, one that is nurtured by going through a Do Something Different program. A non-inclusive and narrow attitude to others may extend to the narrowing down of options in life, a path that will ultimately negatively impact one’s wellbeing.
Conclusion:
So the picture is a really positive one for being open to diversity and open to people not like yourself. Our analysis of the results showed that wellbeing and openness to change are strongly linked to inclusiveness - the more inclusive a person is, the better their wellbeing – in all of the areas we measured. We also showed that developing inclusiveness with the Do Something Different Diversity & Inclusiveness intervention was responsible for the increases in wellbeing because there was a ‘dose-response relationship’- those people whose inclusiveness increased more experienced greater improvements in wellbeing.
Ben Fletcher's work is partially supported by EU Horizon 2020 grant 643735 called Do CHANGE
I'm sure Mr. Fletcher's own circle of friends includes numerous devout Christian Republicans.
Right, Fletch?
Dear Geddy,
Nicely made point. Of course the opposite might be true (if my wellbeing was low!). Actually, my wellbeing is good and I always try to look at arguments and issues from all sides and hope I am inclusive. It is an animal tendency to want to be in a 'like me' group but that does not mean we cannot act differently.
Best, Ben
I think too many psychologists, sociologists and other experts have been encouraging us to indulge this tendency to stick with our own kind, through their constant trumpeting of how vital it is to have a social life.
Well, what do we do to get that social life? We make ourselves similar to others. Because that's what the research keeps saying is necessary for rapport and liking. We sell out our principles and best selves in a heartbeat, time and again, if we perceive doing that to jeopardize our social bonds.
Obviously, no social life should be worth throwing away your best, truest self and unique voice... but I'm pragmatic enough to know that going it alone is impossible for most people. So the only solution is to build inclusiveness into our social lives, so we don't have to choose between being connected and being true to ourselves.
Dear Lucy,
You make a very good point here - that the pressures on us as individuals is to group together with those like us. I also agree that academic experts have for many years extolled the narrow and the same (for example, I find it amazing that much of personality theory often extols the personal inflexibility that comes with the notion of 'trait' and 'profile' and that people and companies have been hoodwinked into believing this is a good thing to take account of in recruitment etc.. The opposite is the case!
So thanks for your email. I look forward to the time when we are all diverse and inclusive and that is the 'in group'!
Best,
Ben
I think people underestimate the degree to which our workplaces shape our values. How can putting "cultural fit"above every other consideration when hiring, NOT make us more willing to cluster only with those like ourselves?
We not only get warm fuzzy feelings from doing this, we are constantly TOLD that we'll get warm fuzzy feelings from it; and that those warm fuzzy feelings are THE most important thing for our happiness and emotional balance. So you get kind of a vicious circle. So we get people willing to end relationships over giving critical but honest feedback. So we get all of us, but bosses especially, thinking that agreement is a requirement for maintaining the relationship.
Disagreement with the boss should not be a firing offense.
Disagreement with friends should not be a reason to sever the friendship.
Putting comfortability above all leads to prejudice and discrimination.
Dear Lucy,
The 'like me' forces are no less active in the workplace and organizations have a role in reducing this - of course that is why diversity programs are key to many firms and organizations L & D. It makes good business sense - as well as social sense - to break down these prejudices. That is difficult, however, which is why I was so pleased in the case study in the blog that we did get real increases in diversity behaviors (which was the reason wellbeing increased).
In a mature organization, certain kinds of disagreement with the bosses are welcomed. That is how growth and development happens. But not always, because not all views about what is right can be equal (e.g. some people have more experience, more knowledge, more influence etc.). The difficulty is in knowing when the disagreements have value and when when they do not. Unfortunately, some employees are not inclusive in their considerations either (e.g. of what bosses needed to do). So the need is at all levels, both up and down.
I have found that the same maturity is needed with friends too - there are some people who are too inflexible and cannot hear views outside their own narrow range. Others are more open. But it is not right to just ditch the first type - perhaps with time a friend can help views change, perhaps they have other real values. So care needs to be exercised because diversity of types of friendships and different levels of toleration in one's friends also helps us to develop......But friendship is two way and we don't decide for both sides, only ourselves. So even if we want to keep friends with different views they may not want to themselves......
Again, I look forward to a world where many different views can be expressed from many different kinds of people and will be evaluated for their worth. We are a long way from that for some good and for some bad reasons - mainly because we are also animals.....(as you said in your first comment)....
Best,
Ben
Best,
Ben
Coming together without being needy or passive aggressive. That is the key. I love these two comparisons Diversity and Inclusiveness because it is almost like having opposites or living by embracing the paradox. Of course as the human family we relate far more to community than to autonomy. By coming together we have a far greater chance of survival so those people end up having more children than autonomous people. Which means more human beings having children who need to be part of a community. Only we still have a need for variety. Or as is said here – diversity. Funny how diversity is so close to the word adversity, isn’t it?
Noticing what we think leads us into noticing what we believe. Keep it easy. This allows us to listen to what is going on without any creation of false memories.
Then we can feel the emotion powering this limiting belief. If you want to change your feelings you have to feel your feelings.
Here is a short process that took me forever to figure out that guarantees change of any limiting belief we had programmed in to us. Sometimes this next step can be very touchy to people. I only mention it because it works.
The example I like to start with is that forgiveness cures anger. If someone is angry and they forgive them then their anger dissolves away. It is not repressed or denied. It is simply gone. It takes emotion to resolve emotion. This is the basis of gutap. And the best anger management there is around.
And remember, forgiveness is not trust. Trust must be earned – forgiveness is only to free ourselves from being tied to them.
False beliefs or negative programming simply has a couple of powerful negative emotions that keep the false concept controlling us. Dissolve them and the false belief is completely diminished.
So how does it work?
When someone is angry they naturally direct their feeling of forgiveness into their feeling of anger. The two emotions must connect to be resolved. False beliefs though often have a couple of emotions that have to work together. Complicated but not impossible.
Gutap – The three steps described:
1 – Feel the feeling of your limiting belief. If you want to change your feelings you have to feel them. (Everyone already knows this step.)
2 – Insight: Find what the positive answer is that it actually wants you to know. What does your limited belief want you to know that is positive? What is the good thing it wants for you but trying in a negative way? (A slight shift on the insight people are seeking.)
3 – Connect the feeling of what it wants you to know and let the feeling of that answer flow into the feeling of your limiting belief to change it. The positive feelings changes it – not you.
That is as simply as I can put it.
Gutap by Toby Jensen (just google for more)
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