Women Who Stray

Notes on the history and current practice of female infidelity

Do Couples Really Need Full Disclosure After Infidelity?

Compelling people who have engaged in infidelity to disclose everything sounds like a good idea. But is it?

Therapeutic Compersion

When our patients succeed in allowing joy into their lives, therapists also feel tremendous joy, because we know this is the start of a new life.

Is Watching Porn Right for You?

Research and headlines on the effects of pornography are confusing. How is it possible to sort out what effect it will have on you?

Compulsion, Anguish, and Castration

Castration plays a disturbing role in the desperate thinking of many men who fear their sexual compulsions.

The Cancel Mob Is Coming

Ask not for whom the cancel mob is coming; it comes for thee.

Why Do Straight Women Trust Gay Men More Than Other Women?

Intrasexual competition and other factors appear to influence who heterosexual women trust.

Consensual Non-Consent: Exploring Challenging Boundaries

Giving up the ability to use a safeword in kinky encounters.

The Victim Personality

Seeing oneself as a perpetual victim, always taken advantage of, may be a stable characteristic.

British High Court Rules on Puberty Blockers in Trans Kids

A British legal ruling challenges the view that puberty blocker medications are completely reversible.

Sex Therapists Are Not Sex Workers

Sex therapists commonly get requests for pretty wild stuff, but this email took the cake.

Are Therapists COVID-19 Hotspots?

Providing in-person psychotherapy right now may be an unacceptable risk for spreading COVID-19. Therapists need to be part of the solution, not part of the problem.

Surviving Childhood Adversity Builds Empathy in Adults

Childhood trauma creates wounds and scars. But it may also create pathways that lead to the development of empathy.

Performative Rage Over Pedophilia Doesn't Protect Kids

Most sexual abuse of children is committed by non-pedophiles. But moral panic seems to attend to the fantastical fears of secret pedophile cabals.

The Latest Conservative Cuckold Scandal

The Falwell scandal is an opportunity for Evangelical Christians to confront, and change, their sexual hypocrisy.

The (Male) Psychology of Harem Fiction

Harem fiction explores male characters with multiple female lovers and wives. The surprising popularity of these books reveals male sexual psychology.

No, Abstinence Won't Increase Your Testosterone

Claims that testosterone is increased by abstinence are based on rather poor science, and seem unlikely to be accurate.

3 Ways to Meet Your Partner’s Sexual Ideals and Why You Should

Valuing your partner's sexual needs, even when you can't meet them, reduces the chances they will feel unsatisfied and unhappy in your relationship.

Study: Porn Is Not to Blame for E.D.

Many men claim that watching too much porn caused them to develop erectile difficulties. But their self-report may be of limited value.

Making Kink COVID-19 Safe

Opening up to kinky gatherings can be done safely, in the days of COVID-19, with accommodations and safety practices.

My Therapist, the Porn Star

Part 2: Exploring the therapeutic issues of therapists who make adult content.

My Therapist, the Porn Star

Part 1: When your therapist is a porn star, how does it affect therapy?

A Loneliness Epidemic

The intersection between our loneliness epidemic and COVID-19 isolation.

The Return of Fabulist Damian Sendler

An exposed fake sex doctor returns, yet again promoting himself as an expert in a sensational and critical area of medicine.

Why COVID-19 Is Killing Your Boundaries

Social isolation and solitary confinement erode our personal boundaries in relationships and work.

From Sex Addiction Therapist to Porn Star

Years ago, Daniel was a sex addiction therapist. Today, he's a porn star, and still a practicing therapist, though his approach to sexuality has changed radically.