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How to Free Yourself From Problem Partners
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Trauma can create learned helplessness, but we can heal and regain our power.
Your self-esteem helps predict whether your relationship will survive. If you can raise it, you can have healthier, more rewarding relationships.
Did your childhood family have any of these 9 patterns? Changing them can improve your love life and the quality of all your relationships.
Do you and your partner have a secure, anxious, or avoidant attachment style? Change your style to have healthier, secure relationships.
Beware of narcissists and abusers who "hoover" to lure you back into a relationship. They'll bait-and-switch to reassert their power over you. Read these six steps for your own protection.
Two research teams found a core trait among all types of narcissism despite varying symptoms and severity.
Narcissists constantly assess who's on top to manage their self-esteem, image, power, and social rank. Learn their tactics to not be hurt, manipulated, or deceived.
Do you doubt whether you still love your partner or wonder whether "Is it me?" "Can I do better?" Here are 6 steps that can improve your relationship or help you decide what to do.
You may not know you're dating a narcissist. They're often skilled game-players. Be prepared. Learn their tricks and find out what to expect so you're not ensnared by seduction.
We all need love. But when our relationships repeatedly disappoint us, examining why may reveal a startling answer.
Dependency can creep into a relationship in small, unnoticed ways. The struggle to achieve autonomy requires courage and often help.
Narcissists' brains function differently. Understanding both their charm and their malice and their weapons and defenses shields and empowers you to take effective action.
We may be stuck in unhappy relationships, including with narcissists who lack intimacy. We can change so we don't keep loving unavailable partners.
We’re wired to need others, making rejection especially painful. But we have the power to grow from it and recover faster. Here are 24 tips on how to move on.
In an abusive relationship, things will get worse when you don't understand the relationship dynamics. Learn what actions to take and how to recover your power and self-esteem.
Wonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Are you obsessed because you’re in love or are you addicted? Discover 10 warning signs and 8 steps to heal love addiction.
Neuroscience shows how a dominant brain can influence a weaker one, which may help explain so-called "mind control" in abusive relationships.
Sons of narcissistic mothers suffer harm to their autonomy, self-worth, and relationships with women.
Unresolved conflict can escalate and destroy relationships. Managing differences in a healthy way brings couples closer.
Valentine's Day is fraught with landmines that can derail expectations and cause unhappiness, whether or not you're in a relationship. Get 6 tips for how to have a great day.
Sibling bullying and abuse is so common, it's ignored, but is a hidden epidemic. Often mistaken for rivalry, it carries the same trauma as child abuse. Bullying begins in the home.
It shocks the heart to have love ripped away without an explanation. Understanding the reasons may help you recover.
Usually, people think intimacy means sharing private information or having sex. But real intimacy can be transforming, making you feel content, empowered, whole, alive, and happy.
Are you distrustful and assume the worst, or do you overtrust and get easily taken in? What’s the right way?
Denial can help us or harm us when we ignore problems or our feelings or needs. If you're in denial, you won't know it. Find out how to recognize denial.
Anger's a normal reaction when our needs aren’t met, our boundaries are violated, or trust is broken. Anger moves us to take action. Identify the triggers and how best to respond.
A gray rock strategy denies abusers and narcissists their needs, but it's only useful in certain situations. Learn the pro's, cons, and hidden dangers.
Whether you're being abused or see yourself as a victim in your life the solution is the same. These 10 steps will boost your mood, self-esteem, and sense of personal power. Start!
Is self-love narcissistic? Do narcissists love themselves? Is some narcissism healthy? Find out what, when, and how narcissism can be helpful and what makes it negative.
Power enables us to have a sense of control, to have choices, and to influence our environment and others. Abuse can rob us of our power, but we can regain it and restore balance.
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an expert and author on relationships and codependency.