When Partners Leave Polyamorous Families With Children
Parents' and children's strategies for dealing with shifting family members.
Posted Oct 07, 2013
The larger poly groups get, my research indicates, the more often they experience a change in membership. It makes sense —the bigger the group, the more likely it is that someone will leave or others will join. What happens when the group includes children who become attached to adults, and those beloved adults are the ones who leave?
Sometimes it Really Sucks
Some kids in my study of poly families reported feeling quite upset when their parents broke up with partners whom the children had come to love. The kids missed their former adult companions, and occasionally compared parents’ subsequent partners to others they had known and loved before, refusing to get close to new partners because of the old hurt they experienced when they bonded with an adult who then left.
More Often it is Not a Big Deal
Staying In Touch
Creating Chosen Family