Replace New Year's Resolutions with These Questions

These 3 questions will help you to smile more and stress less in 2020.

Posted Dec 31, 2019

Another new year has arrived and the usual flurry of questions circulate: “What are your New Year’s Resolutions? What do you want to achieve? What new habits do you want? What’s your focus for the year?” It's easy to get overwhelmed by these questions. It's even easier to just freeze and stare blankly at the person who has just asked them. It makes you wonder does it really have to be this way? The answer is no.

With only 8 percent of New Year's resolutions being achieved, it's time to switch your approach to a new year. Rather than making huge goals that are stressful to achieve, commit to making different choices that improve your lifestyle and state of mind. Rather than saying you will start going to the gym five days a week when currently you are going none, start small by saying you will test different activities and sports to find one that you enjoy doing regularly. Really, it's about simplifying your approach to life in general.

When you simplify, you eliminate what's not important, giving you more time and energy to do the things that are important. You start saying no to things that make you feel bad and yes to things that make you happy. You start to live life on your own terms, resulting in a more fulfilling life.

To help you get started on this path, take yourself through these three questions. These will help you to set a positive intention for your year in an uplifting and motivating manner.

1. What are three things you enjoy doing that you want to do more of?

Going for hikes? Taking a hot bath? Reading a good book in your local cafe? Traveling? Visiting family?

This is a ridiculously simple yet purposefully powerful question to answer. When you answer this out loud or better yet write your answers down, you acknowledge the things you enjoy whilst committing to doing more of them. If you want to take it a step further, you can even schedule some of them into your calendar already.

2. What are three things you want to evolve in?

There is no rule about what evolve means here. It could be improving a skill, getting better at a sport, learning to cook more dishes, or exploring a hobby you've always wanted to try. As a human, you are your happiest when you are growing, so actively putting yourself in positions that enable growth will make you even happier and life just a little bit more adventurous.

3. What are three things you want to do less of?

Rushing? Stressing? Being self-critical? Smoking? Boredom eating? Being pessimistic?

Whatever it is that you want to do less of, believe that you can do less of it. Anything is possible. You could even stop doing it altogether if you so wish. This could be a habit you want to get rid of, a thought pattern that doesn't serve you, an activity you used to enjoy but no longer do, or a chore you'd rather delegate to someone else. Life is too short to waste time doing things that weigh you down so be bold enough to admit when this is the case and eliminate that weight from your life. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it or look for different, more exciting ways to get it done if it's something you really cannot delegate.

These questions should help you to approach your year from a more positive, empowering viewpoint than fixed resolutions or goals. These intentions remind you what matters to you most and you can use these throughout the year to make sure you are on the right track for a happier, more fulfilling life.