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I want to share my testimony with the general public about what this man called Dr Stanley has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell within 24hours. I was married to my husband we were together for 6years and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 6years of marriage, he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore. Then I was looking for way to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave me his contact email drstanleyspelltemple@hotmail.com. You won’t believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he cast a very strong spell for me and bring my lost husband back within 24hrs, and after a month I miss my monthly period and went for a test and the result showed that i was pregnant. i am happy today am a mother of a baby boy, thank you once again the Dr Stanley for what you have done for me. Contact him on his email address drstanleyspelltemple@hotmail.com if you are out there passing through any of this problems in your life.......Mardina
The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.
—Audrey Hepburn
Romantic relationships are among the greatest sources of happiness and meaning for many human beings, yet also the cause of lasting sadness and regret. Growing up, we learn much about fairytale weddings, but not a whole lot about what it really takes to keep love and caring alive for the long haul.
According to the latest statistics, 41 percent of first marriages and 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce. And even the strongest relationships get off track sometimes, because of the stresses of living, mismatch of expectations, or what author Dr. Sue Johnson calls “attachment injuries”—ways in which we fail to hold and comfort each other during key moments of need. I have developed The H-E-A-L (Hear; Empathize; Act; Love) technique to repair damaged relationships by replacing defensive self-protection with compassionate presence and loving connection.
HEAR—To Hear Your Partner, Stay Present and Listen
When your partner speaks, make an effort to stay mentally present and to listen. Open your heart and take down your defenses. It’s not about defending yourself, but about trying to understand your partner and learning to fulfill each other’s needs.
Listen beyond her words for nonverbal signs of emotion. Does she have an angry expression on her face or sadness in her eyes? Is his body language open and reaching towards you or closed off and guarded? What do you think your partner is feeling? What are the needs she has that are not being met (such as love, companionship, understanding, control, or respect)? The best way to soothe an angry partner is to let him know that you hear and accept his unmet needs—and are willing to make changes to help meet them.
EMPATHIZE—Allow Your Partner's Experience to Deeply Affect You
Once you think you understand what your partner feels and have checked it out with him, pay attention to what feelings YOU have when you observe him feeling this way. It is especially important to search beneath the surface for the softer, tender feelings. My clients often express anger when what lies underneath is feeling stuck, sad, or lonely.
Can you stay present with your partner, and connect with her deeper experience, perhaps feeling pain because she is in pain? Can you feel compassion, and let him know that his expression of pain or anger affects you deeply? Your first instinct in hearing your partner’s distress may be to try to solve the problem or give advice. Often, however, this advice comes across as critical or judgmental, which can make things worse. On the other hand, staying emotionally engaged and expressing compassion can provide healing comfort and connection. Many times, that is all your partner needs.
ACT—Take Action to Address Concerns and Show Willingness to Change
The next step is to commit to intentional action to address your partner’s needs and concerns. These actions can range from helping more with the dishes, to calling your partner during the day to let her know you are thinking of her, to spending less money because it makes him anxious. When your partner sees that you take her concerns seriously, she will be more likely to feel valued and respected. This can create a positive cycle in which your partner appreciates you and feels more loving towards you. You don’t have to be perfect at it—just the fact that you care and are trying to change is enough to help most people feel validated.
LOVE—Feel and Express Unconditional Love
Make space in your life to deliberately reconnect with the loving feelings you have for your partner, even if recent interactions have made you feel distant or angry. Think about the good qualities he has that originally attracted you to him. Perhaps look at old photos or visualize special times in your relationship, or the hopes and dreams you had together. Can you find a way to forgive yourself and your partner for the mistakes you have both made that got you off track? What do these feelings of love motivate you to do? Might you want to reach out to him and express your love and affection physically or with action, such as cooking a meal or writing a note?
Love is defined as a concern for another’s wellbeing and a warm feeling you have towards another. Do not make your expressions of love contingent on what your partner does, but rather reach out and express unconditional caring, support, understanding, and forgiveness. If there are unresolved trust issues that hamper your ability to love your partner freely, think about the next steps you could take to air these issues and what it would take to rebuild trust.
Summary
Contrary to the way relationships are portrayed in the movies, they are not all sunsets and roses. A better analogy is that of an ever-changing, complicated dance. When two people come together with different life histories, sensitivities, and current stresses, you are bound to bump up against each other or get blown off track over the course of a many-year relationship. Repair your relationship using the H-E-A-L technique. By Hearing, Empathizing, Acting to change, and Loving, you are actively reaching for your partner and letting them know that they matter and you care. This should create HEALING energy to move your relationship back to health.
