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How Forgiveness Benefits Individual, Family, and Community Health
Robert Enright Ph.D.
When taking undergraduate psychology courses, I learned about Freud's and Skinner's theories, but we never delved into the underlying image of humanity hidden inside their views.
The rising rate of suicidal ideation and suicides among military personnel and veterans might be reduced by Forgiveness Therapy.
Genuine forgiveness levels the moral playing field in which the parties come together as equals. In false-forgiveness, a person may be using this moral virtue for self-interest.
Although forgiveness was not part of Erik Erikson's psychosocial theory, forgiveness possibly can and should be integrated into that theory for a healthy and happy life.
Betrayals are very painful. The effects of betrayals, such as deep anger, generalized mistrust of others, anxiety, and depression can be even more challenging. It is time to heal.
Trouble in relationships now might be caused by pain passed from previous generations of family members who struggled with pain from injustice. It is time to stop the pattern.
After we have suffered through and overcome challenging injustices, we often find that we have a new purpose in life. This can be invigorating.
Humility, too often misunderstood as timidity, can help you in a variety of ways to see yourself and others more realistically and possibly to increase a sense of well-being.
People have a number of questions about whom to forgive when resentments build during the "shelter-in-place" and quarantine rules as people wait for COVID-19 to pass.
When a relationship is worth saving, should we protect ourselves and just not care so much, in case it fails, or put love first and try to be of service to the other?
Resentments can live with us for years. If someone bullied you when you were an adolescent, the sting of this might still be present. Yet, the residual effects of anger can leave.
When we are beaten down by the injustices of life, we can think of ourselves as burned out or irreversibly damaged. Yet, forgiving those who have been cruel can be rejuvenating.
Many people are afraid to forgive or are angry about the idea because they think they must automatically go back into the relationship. Is this the case?
The seven questions here are not an exam which the other passes or fails. Instead, a discussion of them may help you both better understand how you see humanity—and each other.
Suppose someone bullies your family member, but not you. Can you legitimately go ahead and forgive even though you were not the one who was treated unfairly?
Have you been playing the tape in your mind that all people cannot be trusted? Have you turned the generalization onto yourself, thinking that you are less than you truly are?
Our sound-bite culture can lead to false impressions. "Victim shaming" is the latest error, and it is dangerous to the oppressed.
We must make a distinction between recent and long-ago causes of anxiety. Severe injustices from the past, which can cause deep anger, may be a major contributor to that anxiety.
Although forgiveness is one and only one moral virtue, there are at least five different motivations underlying forgiveness when hurt by others.
If it is the case that forgiveness of others can at times be selfish or enabling of others' bad behavior, then such a conclusion could discourage people from forgiving.
Thousands of researchers and therapists now address the crucial issue of forgiving others. What were the developments in this field and where is it headed next?
When treated unfairly by others, people can develop resentment, compromising physical health.
We have to be careful when forgiving that we distinguish between our initial reason for forgiving and what forgiveness actually is. Otherwise, we may misunderstand forgiveness.
You have control over hopelessness because it can be defeated if you do the challenging work of seeing your own and others' built-in worth, work on gratitude, and forgive.
You have control over hopelessness because you can find meaning in your suffering. Hopelessness can be defeated if you embrace one of the meanings discussed in this essay.
Hopelessness is an infection of our times. Letting it keep marching without a challenge is a danger. We begin a 4-part series by examining philosophical ideas that do not uplift.
When treated deeply unfairly by others, you do not have to live with resentment that could destroy you. Unconditional forgiveness is one of the strongest paths to hope and freedom.
How do you coordinate your forgiving and the other's seeking forgiveness? It's not easy, because you may be at different parts of your own process.
Making one particular adjustment in your thinking might go a long way in helping you to like yourself again and to move forward well, despite any relationship set-back.
Why would one want to forgive? After all, the person is no longer here to hurt you. Yet the conflicts of the past can live on in us.
Robert Enright, Ph.D., is a professor of educational psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and a licensed psychologist who pioneered the social scientific study of forgiveness.