Sex, Lies & Trauma

What can we learn about masculinity from the sexual harassment scandals dominating the media world?

Harvey Weinstein is just one of many.

Millennial men may not be hooking up as much as we think they are, but their attitudes towards women suggest a deeper problem

Play

USA vs Norway: The One Night Stand

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on September 14, 2017

Are Americans more likely to have one night stands? A recent study suggests otherwise.

Are Americans more likely to have one night stands? A recent study suggests otherwise.

When sexual attraction comes only after knowing someone deeply, problems arise.

Sex

The 2016 Best and Worst Sex List

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on December 30, 2016

National politics came close to displacing sexual politics this year as the most talked-about topic on therapist couches.

National politics came close to displacing sexual politics this year as the most talked-about topic on therapist couches.

Fantasies

Sexual Fantasy as a Form of Play

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on December 8, 2016

How do you distinguish between which fantasies deepen sexual expression with healthy play, and which ones prey on others by repeating old traumas?

How do you distinguish between which fantasies deepen sexual expression with healthy play, and which ones prey on others by repeating old traumas?

The rape victims of Brian Banks and Brock Turner suffered gravely because white privilege often trumps the truth.

Stalking

10 Tips to Protect Yourself From Cyberstalking

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on April 19, 2016

It's important to be careful with how you conduct your romantic life online.

It's important to be careful with how you conduct your romantic life online.

Sex

2015 Best and Worst Sex List

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on January 1, 2016

It was a wild year for sex! Here are 25 of the most intriguing, perplexing, and stunning sex stories this year.

It was a wild year for sex! Here are 25 of the most intriguing, perplexing, and stunning sex stories this year.

Infidelity

The Sexpert Chronicles: Profile of an Infidelity Expert

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on October 13, 2015

Alex sits down with Dr. Tammy Nelson to discuss "the new monogamy", erotic integrity and treating infidelity in sex therapy.

Alex sits down with Dr. Tammy Nelson to discuss "the new monogamy", erotic integrity and treating infidelity in sex therapy.

Sex

What Dating Looks Like for a Recovering Sex Addict

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on September 24, 2015

Compulsive sex is the fast food of relationships, and developing a taste for the slow-cooked meal may take some time.

Compulsive sex is the fast food of relationships, and developing a taste for the slow-cooked meal may take some time.

Sex

Infidelity: Looking Beyond the Ashley Madison Scandal

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on August 20, 2015

Although it’s difficult to know where to draw the line between addiction, ‘high sex drive’ and plain old dishonesty, there are some basic patterns that one can identify in an effort to make sense of a betrayal.

Although it’s difficult to know where to draw the line between addiction, ‘high sex drive’ and plain old dishonesty, there are some basic patterns that one can identify in an effort to make sense of a betrayal.

Understanding the building blocks of intimacy will gradually allow the addict to learn a new style of relating to others.

Relationships

Why We Fall for Unavailable Partners (and How to Stop)

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on June 19, 2015

The love avoidant is terrified of intimacy and cannot tolerate it. He or she may crave love, but when it comes knocking, the love avoidant runs like hell.

The love avoidant is terrified of intimacy and cannot tolerate it. He or she may crave love, but when it comes knocking, the love avoidant runs like hell.

Relationships

What is a 'Clean' Breakup? (And How to Achieve One)

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on May 8, 2015

Letting go can be so painful that it's easier to create drama and/or necessitate a fight rather than part ways on amicable terms.

Letting go can be so painful that it's easier to create drama and/or necessitate a fight rather than part ways on amicable terms.

Sex

The New Sexual Revolution Is the Sexual Healing Movement

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on April 14, 2015

The entire sexual recovery movement and growing number of therapists and centers devoted to sexual healing is at the forefront of a new wave of sexual liberation.

The entire sexual recovery movement and growing number of therapists and centers devoted to sexual healing is at the forefront of a new wave of sexual liberation.

Cyberstalking aims to humiliate, control, frighten, manipulate, embarrass, or otherwise harm the victim.

Masturbation

Childhood Trauma and Masturbation

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on February 6, 2015

Masturbation is one of the most accessible and available forms of numbing out, because you rely only on your own body to produce the intoxicating chemicals that soothe the pain.

Masturbation is one of the most accessible and available forms of numbing out, because you rely only on your own body to produce the intoxicating chemicals that soothe the pain.

Sex

The 2014 Best & Worst Sex List

Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT on December 31, 2014

These are the 25 most inspiring, incredible, disturbing, and admirable news stories about sex and sexuality in 2014, as selected by Alexandra Katehakis and Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles for their annual Best & Worst Sex List. Each story is accompanied by in-depth commentary from a therapeutic perspective addressing why all this matters at this time in our culture.

These are the 25 most inspiring, incredible, disturbing, and admirable news stories about sex and sexuality in 2014, as selected by Alexandra Katehakis and Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles for their annual Best & Worst Sex List. Each story is accompanied by in-depth commentary from a therapeutic perspective addressing why all this matters at this time in our culture.