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Therapy

What to Do When Your Partner Won't Go to Couples Therapy

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on August 13, 2023

You may feel helpless when your partner won't work on relationship problems with you, but there’s a lot you can do on your own to create a healthier partnership. 

You may feel helpless when your partner won't work on relationship problems with you, but there’s a lot you can do on your own to create a healthier partnership. 

Relationships

3 Ways People Ruin Their Relationships

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on June 6, 2023

Most of us learned unhealthy relational skills growing up. We may be doing the best we can, but as adults we need to learn new relational skills.

Most of us learned unhealthy relational skills growing up. We may be doing the best we can, but as adults we need to learn new relational skills.

Sex

The 7 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on April 22, 2023

Many couple make the same mistakes—mistakes that wind up causing disconnection and harm to the relationship.

Many couple make the same mistakes—mistakes that wind up causing disconnection and harm to the relationship.

Mating

5 Things About Dating I Wish I Knew Sooner

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on January 23, 2023

Date in a way that leads to a healthy relationship faster and without all the pain along the way.

Date in a way that leads to a healthy relationship faster and without all the pain along the way.

Relationships

How to Handle the Uncertainty That Comes With Relationships

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on December 8, 2022

Relationships are uncertain. You don’t know what will happen in a month, a year, or a decade. You don’t know what will happen tomorrow.

Relationships are uncertain. You don’t know what will happen in a month, a year, or a decade. You don’t know what will happen tomorrow.

Career

3 Signs You Need to Learn Healthier Communication Skills

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on October 14, 2022

It's never too late to learn how to communicate better! You can learn the skills necessary to have hard conversations that end with deeper connection instead of deeper wounds.

It's never too late to learn how to communicate better! You can learn the skills necessary to have hard conversations that end with deeper connection instead of deeper wounds.

Relationships

How I Learned to Love Discomfort

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on October 3, 2022

Personal Perspective: Practice the following mindset shifts so you can embrace the journey, and so you don’t give up when it gets hard.

Personal Perspective: Practice the following mindset shifts so you can embrace the journey, and so you don’t give up when it gets hard.

Relationships

How to Date With Self-love

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on February 3, 2022

You’ve probably been told that you have to love yourself in order to have the loving relationship you want, but now that you know this, you need to know how to love yourself. 

You’ve probably been told that you have to love yourself in order to have the loving relationship you want, but now that you know this, you need to know how to love yourself. 

Relationships

How to Tell You're Ready for a Serious Relationship

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on January 15, 2022

A lot of people want a healthy, serious relationship. Wanting a serious relationship is one thing but being ready for one is another thing.

A lot of people want a healthy, serious relationship. Wanting a serious relationship is one thing but being ready for one is another thing.

Mating

3 Things No One Should Ever Talk About on a First Date

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on January 8, 2022

Learn the first date red flags so you can eliminate the wrong people as early as possible, and avoid getting attached to people who end up hurting you.

Learn the first date red flags so you can eliminate the wrong people as early as possible, and avoid getting attached to people who end up hurting you.

Anxiety

3 Reasons to Worry Less About First Dates

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on December 12, 2021

First dates don’t mean much and don’t tell you much. Find out why and stop putting so much pressure on first dates.

First dates don’t mean much and don’t tell you much. Find out why and stop putting so much pressure on first dates.

Mating

Managing Differences Is a Key Relationship Skill

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on October 1, 2021

Couples' issues present in all sorts of ways. But almost always, the inability to manage differences is the underlying problem. Here's what you need to know.

Couples' issues present in all sorts of ways. But almost always, the inability to manage differences is the underlying problem. Here's what you need to know.

Confidence

Start Setting Boundaries With Confidence

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on September 13, 2021

Compromising our boundaries is one of the most disempowering, self-defeating things we can do. So why do we do it?

Compromising our boundaries is one of the most disempowering, self-defeating things we can do. So why do we do it?

Mating

3 Crucial Dating Mistakes

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on August 6, 2021

These three mental mistakes can make the dating journey a complete waste of time and energy.

These three mental mistakes can make the dating journey a complete waste of time and energy.

Sex

3 Ways to Keep from Getting Attached Too Soon

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on June 1, 2021

3. If you get attached when you have sex, don’t have sex until you’re attached.

3. If you get attached when you have sex, don’t have sex until you’re attached.

Mating

The Online Dating World Is a Mess

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on May 4, 2021

Does the online dating world feel like a total sh*t show? That’s because it is. Here's what you need to know.

Does the online dating world feel like a total sh*t show? That’s because it is. Here's what you need to know.

Mating

The Ultimate Guide to First Dates

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on April 7, 2021

How to stop wasting time on the wrong people and find the right person faster.

How to stop wasting time on the wrong people and find the right person faster.

Sex

Is There Sex After Kids?

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on August 12, 2020

Do you feel like you’re living with a roommate instead of a romantic partner? You may need to shift your priorities.

Do you feel like you’re living with a roommate instead of a romantic partner? You may need to shift your priorities.

Career

3 Tips for Facing Conflict and Feeling Good About It

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on August 4, 2020

Can you imagine sitting with your partner, having a hard conversation, and feeling seen, heard, valued, and connected? It’s possible when you practice these communication skills.

Can you imagine sitting with your partner, having a hard conversation, and feeling seen, heard, valued, and connected? It’s possible when you practice these communication skills.

Sex

Want Better Sex? Sometimes Simmering Is Hotter than Boiling

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT on July 29, 2020

Do you want more from your sex life and intimacy? Slowing down might be just what you need to heat things up.

Do you want more from your sex life and intimacy? Slowing down might be just what you need to heat things up.