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Mark D. White Ph.D.
Lying to your partner about bad behavior, such as an affair, is obviously wrong. But it may seem alright, even kind, to lie to them about things that are bothering us. Is that really true?
It's often hard, especially for self-loathers, to believe that others can love us. A new book explains why we have to believe this, even without any evidence to support it.
Many are still gathering at bars, restaurants, and other social events, despite calls to practice social distancing. Some defend or criticize this as individualism—but is it?
Do superheroes need to have clear-cut moral codes, and can they be conflicted? Does this help make them more relatable?
This final post on the social nature of the individual highlights the dangers of regarding the individual as irredeemably selfish and immoral.
How can we act socially while remaining individuals? Just ask Immanual Kant.
What does it mean for each of us to be "individual in essence," and how does this still acknowledge our social nature?
Are we wholly social or are we "radically" individualistic? This first in a series of posts starts to explore this question...and the answer is both is "no."
Why can be it so hard to accept love and affection, even when it's what we desire the most?
There's nothing like a fling to create sweet memories, but are they better than the "real thing"? And can they help us remember our deeper relationships better?
What if we remember relationships differently than the other person does? Should their opinion "count" in our memories?
Do you tend to dwell on the negative aspects of past relationships and forget the positive? This is neither automatic nor necessary, and you can change it.
I recently had to abandon a book project. What did I learn from the experience? Quite a bit, actually.
The new Wasp inherited her father's genius as well as his bipolar disorder, which the creators of her comic book series are beginning to explore.
Have you ever thought about how unlikely it is that two people fall in love with each other? So have I, and I have some ideas about that...
We usually hear about impostor syndrome related to a job or profession, but you may also feel like an imposter in your life . . . especially if you didn't choose it for yourself.
Philosophers say that acknowledging our mortality can inspire us to live fuller lives in the present. Might the same thing be true about relationships?
Everyone knows Captain America as a paragon of virtue—but did you know he struggles with his same questions of identity, purpose, and belonging the rest of us do?
A reader comment inspired me to amend my last post on indulging in romantic fantasy to avoid the risk of true love.
Some people never take romantic chances, remaining satisfied with dreams that can never lead to heartbreak. But is this enough?
Most productivity gurus recommend developing and sticking to a routine, but how do we prevent that routine from becoming. . .routine?
A commenter on my post “Are You Tempted by Adultery Even Though You Believe It's Wrong?” recently asked a great question: “What if your partner doesn't believe it is wrong?”
Might the key to beating self-loathing lie in rejecting it as part of our identities with which we've become too comfortable?
What did the Masterpiece Cakeshop decision tell us, and what issues did it leave to be settled another day?
It's common to hear people say "you can't help who you love" when they're caught in an illicit or inappropriate relationship. But is this really true?
Many writers talk about "choosing a romantic partner," but this is inaccurate and may actually be harmful, both to understanding the way we find love as well as how to study it.
How many times have you seen someone and asked yourself, “What do I have to offer this person?" Here are some reasons why thinking this way sells yourself short.
Figuring out what you want to do is difficult when you don't know why you're doing it in the first place.
All of us are alarmed and angered by revelations about Harvey Weinstein. But does this justify restrictive rules on interactions between men and women like Mike Pence follows?
We're becoming more reliant on digital assistants such as Alexa and Siri to help us make decisions. What might this be doing to us as autonomous and authentic individuals?
Mark D. White is the chair of the Department of Philosophy at the College of Staten Island/CUNY.
In this blog, I discuss a wide variety of classic and contemporary issues, most often focusing on issues of ethics (especially in relationships), strength of character, and the law.