How to Be Yourself

Perfectionism

Three Reasons People With Perfectionism Are Frequently Late

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on April 14, 2025

People with perfectionism aren't always early—in fact, many struggle with lateness. Learn why, and how small shifts can lead to calmer, more punctual arrivals.

People with perfectionism aren't always early—in fact, many struggle with lateness. Learn why, and how small shifts can lead to calmer, more punctual arrivals.

Embarrassment

3 Ways to Cope with Cringe Attacks

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on September 30, 2024

Cringe attacks are visceral reminders of life's most embarrassing moments. Try these techniques to lessen their impact.

Cringe attacks are visceral reminders of life's most embarrassing moments. Try these techniques to lessen their impact.

Anger

How to Take Criticism Gracefully

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on September 29, 2021

Having trouble facing feedback? Don’t let criticism paralyze you. Try these 12 tips to take the sting out of evaluation.

Having trouble facing feedback? Don’t let criticism paralyze you. Try these 12 tips to take the sting out of evaluation.

Stress

How to Stop Being Late

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on September 20, 2021

Chronically late? If you are always the last to dial in, or always sprinting to the boarding gates, try these ten tricks to be there with time to spare.

Chronically late? If you are always the last to dial in, or always sprinting to the boarding gates, try these ten tricks to be there with time to spare.

Procrastination

How to Finally Stop Procrastinating

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on August 3, 2021

Can’t stop scrolling (instead of hunkering down and studying for tomorrow’s exam)? Whether a serial procrastinator or just in a rut, try out these six tips to boost your focus.

Can’t stop scrolling (instead of hunkering down and studying for tomorrow’s exam)? Whether a serial procrastinator or just in a rut, try out these six tips to boost your focus.

Career

3 Proven Tips to Help You Perform Under Pressure

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on June 14, 2021

How to stop overthinking and freezing up? Whether you’re trying to nail a work presentation, sink a putt, or spell “bougainvillea” to win the spelling bee, try these three tips.

How to stop overthinking and freezing up? Whether you’re trying to nail a work presentation, sink a putt, or spell “bougainvillea” to win the spelling bee, try these three tips.

Anxiety

5 Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on May 18, 2021

Managing others' emotions can lead to exhaustion and anxiety.

Managing others' emotions can lead to exhaustion and anxiety.

Burnout

7 Ways to Recover from Burnout

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on May 10, 2021

Anyone from nurses to students to stay-at-home parents to social media managers can burn out. These seven strategies can help you bounce back.

Anyone from nurses to students to stay-at-home parents to social media managers can burn out. These seven strategies can help you bounce back.

Depression

5 Unofficial Varieties of Depression

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on March 29, 2021

We usually think of depression as feeling sad and not being able to get out of bed—but it’s much more than that.

We usually think of depression as feeling sad and not being able to get out of bed—but it’s much more than that.

Anxiety

Power Through or Rest? How to Make the Right Choice

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on February 26, 2021

You’re supposed to go out, work out, or otherwise get stuff done, but your energy is lower than a three-watt bulb. Are you actually tired? Or just being lazy or avoidant?

You’re supposed to go out, work out, or otherwise get stuff done, but your energy is lower than a three-watt bulb. Are you actually tired? Or just being lazy or avoidant?

Body Language

5 Simple Habits of Amazing Listeners

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on February 10, 2021

When we leave a conversation with a great listener, we feel truly seen and heard. Here’s how to listen well.

When we leave a conversation with a great listener, we feel truly seen and heard. Here’s how to listen well.

Trust

How to Trust People Again

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on January 12, 2021

Do you try to keep yourself safe but end up isolated? Rebuilding your faith in humanity is a long road, but it can be done.

Do you try to keep yourself safe but end up isolated? Rebuilding your faith in humanity is a long road, but it can be done.

Career

6 Ways to Not Take Things Personally

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on November 17, 2020

Here’s how to handle criticism and when—and when not—to take it to heart.

Here’s how to handle criticism and when—and when not—to take it to heart.

Passive-Aggression

5 Ways to Deal with Passive Aggressive People

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on October 16, 2020

Oh no he didn’t! Passive-aggressive behavior can test your patience. Here are 5 strategies to help you keep your cool.

Oh no he didn’t! Passive-aggressive behavior can test your patience. Here are 5 strategies to help you keep your cool.

Relationships

What to Do When Nothing Feels Good

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on September 26, 2020

Meh. Whatever. Who cares? If it feels like your world has switched from technicolor to black and white, try one of these research-based strategies to turn things around.

Meh. Whatever. Who cares? If it feels like your world has switched from technicolor to black and white, try one of these research-based strategies to turn things around.

Burnout

4 Unexpected Causes of Burnout

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on August 21, 2020

It makes sense that you’d feel drained by 16-hour days, no vacation time, or a project with no end in sight. But the other factors of burnout aren’t as clear or well-known.

It makes sense that you’d feel drained by 16-hour days, no vacation time, or a project with no end in sight. But the other factors of burnout aren’t as clear or well-known.

Anxiety

3 Ways to Stop Worrying

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on July 23, 2020

Worry is like a rocking chair; it keeps you moving but it won’t get you anywhere. If worrying is unproductive, why do we do it? And more importantly, how can we stop?

Worry is like a rocking chair; it keeps you moving but it won’t get you anywhere. If worrying is unproductive, why do we do it? And more importantly, how can we stop?

Career

7 Strategies to Maximize a Break While Working From Home

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on June 18, 2020

Working remotely can feel like you’re all in, or... baking banana bread at 11 a.m. on a Tuesday. When it comes to taking a break, here’s how to strike the right balance.

Working remotely can feel like you’re all in, or... baking banana bread at 11 a.m. on a Tuesday. When it comes to taking a break, here’s how to strike the right balance.

Anxiety

Overcoming Panic Attacks: 6 Strategies That Work

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on May 28, 2020

As the 1 in 4 people who’ve experienced a panic attack can attest, panic is no walk in the park—it feels more like a rocket ship into the abyss. Luckily, there are ways to manage it.

As the 1 in 4 people who’ve experienced a panic attack can attest, panic is no walk in the park—it feels more like a rocket ship into the abyss. Luckily, there are ways to manage it.

Grief

4 Common Barriers to Supporting Someone Who Is Grieving

Ellen Hendriksen Ph.D. on May 6, 2020

Learn the four most common obstacles to helping someone who is grieving and what you can do to overcome them.

Learn the four most common obstacles to helping someone who is grieving and what you can do to overcome them.