The COVID crisis throws into relief what happens when grief has—quite literally—nowhere to go. The evidence suggests that most people summon strengths that surpass their own expectations.
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Turn in the direction of the skid.
Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D.
Psychopathology is like trying to get around in your city using a map that is decades old and drawn by a child.
Psychopathology uses imagination to replace rather than to develop ourselves.
When psychologists conceptualize human suffering as angst, despair, and ennui rather than as disease, then our "medicine" is very strong.
Your partner cannot be both a perfect shield against infection and, at the same time, a relaxed roommate. You can’t marry Monica AND Phoebe, or Chandler AND Joey.
Some partners may not see the advantages of doing what’s best for the system.
Some approaches to therapy move online smoothly, and some don’t.
Once we stigmatize someone, we maintain our sense of our own humanity by demonizing the stigmatized.
Don’t be surprised when horror narratives and hero-worship supplant our rational responses to the coronavirus; it’s what we were built to do.
Why people have such a strong desire to be authentic.
It’s hard to tell if your date is a narcissist because everyone is trying to look impressive on a date.
Do you look in the mirror with love or hate?
We need to learn how to manage our emotions, not be tyrannized by them.
All too often, “acceptance” means complacency with ourselves rather than an acknowledgment of our flaws, humility, and a desire to change for the better.
“Also thou shalt not oppress a stranger: for ye know the heart of a stranger, seeing ye were strangers in the land of Egypt.” Exodus 23:9
Science’s success in insulating us from early death lowers the stakes for sifting bad ideas, allowing us to believe what we like.
Theater and poetry, as opposed to journalism, are the bedrock of therapy.
Self-esteem is the result of having skills appropriate to the occasion.
Marital advice for a lovely couple.
While a small percentage of anxiety reactions are caused by brain malfunctions, the vast majority of them are psychological in nature.
It’s hard to nail a performance when you don’t know which role you’re in.
Only humans turn heuristics into commandments.
When Red Sox fans hate the Yankees, that’s culture; if a Red Sox fan shot up the Yankee clubhouse, you can bet on mental illness.
They compulsively test the durability of relationships, but the test is never passed, only passed for now.
If you guard information like incriminating evidence, you experience curiosity as piracy.
A misalliance is a positive relationship organized around something other than the work of therapy.
No one is perfectly masculine or feminine.
Therapy is not supposed to make you comfortable; it’s supposed to make you comfort-able.
Therapy is where you learn what life could be.
Conformity, psychological integration, and freedom from disease are distinct concepts and stigmatized differently.
A remarkable class action suit—over which mental health services an insurance company can deny—could have nationwide implications.
Michael Karson, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Denver.
Musings (amusing musings, I hope) on psychotherapy, personality, and life from a practitioner steeped in experience, resistant to rules, and suspicious of categories.