Supporting Adult Children With Mental Illness
Resources and experiences to help you support your loved one
Posted Feb 06, 2020
How do you support an adult child who has a mental illness? How do you as a caregiver hang in there when your adult child, who so clearly needs help, refuses it? I get requests from parents and caregivers just like this every week.
Some of you reading this right now may be facing these very situations. Your adult child may be struggling with addiction, maybe it’s a severe chronic mental illness, or maybe it’s both.
I wish there was a simple three step solution. "Do this, this and this and your adult child will accept the help they’re being offered." "Put these five strategies in place and the rehab program they’re in, the out-patient program they’re involved with will, all of a sudden, turn things around once and for all."
But it doesn’t work that way of course. Recovery is possible. Recovery should be the expectation. But the cold truth is recovery isn’t guaranteed. Recovery is also relative. Recovery varies for each individual depending on myriad factors – especially how chronic, how severe the mental illness is that the person is dealing with.
There is still reason to hope. There are solutions, though the road may be arduous.
With this in mind, I want to share with you an issue of the Canadian Mental Health Association BC Visions Journal, "Supporting Adult Children: Helping Them Find Their Way."
You’ll find first person experiences from parents and caregivers. Like Holly Horwood, whose daughter lives with severe schizophrenia. She describes what they have gone through as a family and explains what has helped and what hasn’t.
You’ll read about the pivotal part support groups play in the lives of caregivers. Other articles offer strategies for setting and reviewing boundaries, how to hang in there as a parent when your adult child doesn’t want help and tools to support them when they do.
You can learn about additional resources, and communication strategies to help your adult child in this Psychology Today post: “Help Your Loved One with Mental Illness with These Resources”.
In particular look at #6 and watch Dr. Lloyd Sederer’s TEDxAlbany talk, ‘When mental illness enters the family’, where he describes key steps to help someone who doesn’t want help.
If you love an adult child with a mental illness and/or substance use issue, my wish is that you realize you’re not alone and as a result feel some relief and hope and also discover some new resources for your journey.
Visions Journal is a free magazine produced by the British Columbia Division of the Canadian Mental Health Association.
© Victoria Maxwell