Are You Full to the Rim?

Enjoy emptiness in the forms that speak to you, such as, the space between thoughts as your mind calms and becomes still, or a Saturday with no plans at all.

What Is Living You?

You and I are constructed each moment by the currents - the forces and factors, both internal and external - flowing through us. Choose to give ourselves over to the good ones.

What Matters Most to You?

You'll never know when you step over the invisible line and the countdown begins but you can know, before and after you cross it, that you've remembered the big things.

What's Your Own Role?

Acknowledging one's own part in a difficult situation is one of the hardest - and I think most honorable - things a person can do.

Busy, Busy?

Tell the truth to yourself about how much time you actually, truly come to rest (other than sleep): not accomplishing anything, planning anything, going anywhere. Utterly at rest.

Is It Worth It?

Sometimes getting a raise is worth the awkwardness of asking for one; and deepening intimacy is worth the vulnerability of saying "I love you."

What Do Their Faces Say to You?

In the broadest sense, receiving the faces of others across the world is an important step toward stitching the fabric of humanity closer together.

Are We There Yet?

To survive, animals - including us - have to be goal-directed, leaning into the future. Endless striving to get tasks done can get confusing and stressful.

Who Are You Prosecuting?

Set down the case, like plopping down a heavy suitcase. Enjoy the feelings, the spaciousness of mind, openness of heart, inner freedom, and other rewards of dropping your case.

What Do You Want?

List wholesome wants that you would like to pursue more. Your wholesome wants will help crowd out the unwholesome ones.

Could It Crack?

Do what's in your heart about what's fragile in our world. Try to come to peace with the inevitable. Everything cracks. There is something beautiful about this part of the truth.

What's Weighing You Down?

Open to that voice that’s telling you what you can afford to drop. Open to a sense of freedom and autonomy where you get to decide what you could stop doing.

Are Some Things Getting Better?

It is not that you are supposed to look through rose-colored glasses. The point is to see life as it is - including the ways it is improving.

Do You Believe in Love?

Recognize and have confidence in the love in your own heart - which will energize and protect you, even when you must also be assertive with others.

Why Do We Have Cheerleaders?

If you pour cold water over your hopes and dreams, you’ll live cautiously, but you’ll never know what warmth and light might have spread if you’d let them catch fire.

Do You Accept the Gift?

Focus on what others communicate, and try to receive that as a valuable offering. Open your mind to the good that is implicit or down deep in the other person.

Are You Feeling Unneeded Pain?

Deliberately tilt toward the positive in your mind, which is not looking through rose-colored glasses. Given the negativity bias in the brain, you're leveling the playing field.

What Are You Saying?

If you simply speak from your heart, have good intentions, and keep returning to the truth as you know it, it is hard not to speak wisely!

What Makes You Feel Threatened?

Be mindful of the degree to which your brain is wired to make you afraid, wired so that you walk around with an ongoing trickle of anxiety (a flood for some) to keep you on alert.

Who Do You Argue With?

Quarrels activate the ancient fight-or-flight machinery in your brain and body: a bit won't harm you, but regular quarreling is not good for long-term physical and mental health.

What's the Most Important Thing?

Keep your purpose close to your heart. And then every day, as soon as you remember, recommit to your life's purpose: rename it to yourself and give yourself over to it again.

What's in Your Heart to Say?

If you say what's true for you, and say it clearly and kindly, you get one kind of result. But if you use a sharp tongue, speak falsely, exaggerate, you get different results.

What Is an Open Heart?

Closing off doesn't feel good. It may feel necessary to distance yourself from another person for awhile or forever but in general, you never have to put anyone out of your heart.

What Do You Notice In People?

See the good in others - it's a simple but very powerful way to feel happier and more confident, and become more loving and more productive in the world.

How Do You Talk to People?

Good interactions build great relationships. Keep these points in mind when you communicate with others: be mindful of tone, consider your true purpose, say what needs to be said.

Are You Holding Onto Feeling Wronged?

Appreciate the value of forgiveness. Ask yourself: what does my grievance, my resentment, cost me? What does it cost others I care about? What would it be like to lay those burdens down?

What Do Others Give You?

Say Thanks - it's a small moment with big ripples: a confirmation of a wonderful truth - that we are all joined in a web of innumerable acts of giving.

What Are You Learning?

It shows you're paying attention, it gets things out in the open and it slows emotional conversations.

What Puts People at Ease?

Much of the time the fear we trigger in others is mild but people can feel threatened by stimuli they're not actually aware of.

What Do You Need?

For better or worse, what you do to others ripples back to you; what you do to yourself ripples out to others. Recognizing this in your belly and bones will change your life for the better. And it will change the lives of others for the better as well.

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