What Would Bear Lots of Fruit?

What's on your short list of things that support you? Try to do one thing on the list each day. "Pass forward" a gift to the person you will be tomorrow...and a year from now.

What Does Your Heart Say?

Try to focus less on how others should be, and focus more on your own practice of finding your own genuine love. It's like strengthening your heart.

Do You Got To?

If you can't say "no" - to others, and yourself - then your "yesses" will lose their meaning and power. Claim for yourself the “freedom not to” it will give you a feeling of ease.

When Are You?

The present moment is continually passing away, so if you try to hold onto it you are no longer in the present. Relax and be open to this moment. Stop being lost in thought.

Does It Feel Safe With Other People?

Even if the other person reacts to you, you could handle it fine. If there is something to deal with — conflict, betrayal — you can be clear-eyed and strong, without being anxious.

Out of Balance?

Think of sobriety in terms of the big picture, and in the context of a life well-lived. Sobriety is a gain—of health, self-respect, unclouded mind, peace with others and bliss.

What's Precious to You?

Try to identify what is sacred to you. Maybe you already know. You could also find a place or time that is peaceful or meaningful. Different answers come to different people.
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Is Life Hard?

The more difficult your life, the more you need to take care of yourself. Know that difficulties will come and go but your own good qualities and good things in life will remain.

What Helps You Carry Your Load?

How you feel and function is based on your load, personal vulnerabilities, and resources. If your load or vulnerabilities increase, so must your resources.

What's the Hurry?

Be mindful of rushing—your own and others. See how other people assume deadlines that aren't actually real, or feel pressured and intense about things that aren't that important.

Where Are You Headed?

Everyday life is entangling. What's the light that will guide you out of your own tangled woods, both the woods "out there" in the world and the ones "in here," in your own mind?

Are You Getting Rope Burn?

As you cling less, it becomes natural for one to lighten up, stay out of quarrels, have more compassion, and forgive. You'll feel more fed by the richness inherent in the present.

Is Your Mind Wandering?

Controlling your attention, by pulling it away from what's bothersome or pointless (such as mental grumbling or self-criticism) is the foundation for changing your brain.

What Can You Do When Nothing Is Working?

Sometimes it helps to change the channel, shake things up, distract yourself, rest or enjoy something. A respite or some sort of pleasure will help to refuel you for challenges.

Are You Stressed Or Upset?

We move back and forth between Green and Red, which our ancestors evolved to survive and pass on to us in their genes.

What's Changing?

Nothing about opening to the changing nature of both internal experiences and external conditions means that we should pursue wholesome ends and means any less wholeheartedly.

Are You Hard On Yourself?

Inner criticism tears you down. Commit to skillful corrections. Take a big breath and very deliberately name to yourself three strengths or virtues you have and let them sink in.

What Are You Fighting?

Conflicts with others are a normal part of life. But if we do this while swept away by anger, that's not good for us or others.

What Gets You Stuck?

Remind yourself how it's in your own best interest to admit fault and move on. It takes a strong person to admit fault, and it puts us in a stronger position with others.

Where Do You Live?

Be aware of breathing and let everything else go. There's always a doorway to a deeper sense of presence and peace: being the body.

What Do You Notice in People?

See the good in others - it's a simple but very powerful way to feel happier and more confident, and become more loving and more productive in the world.

Who Are You, Deep Down?

Try to take in the good of feeling cared about; recognize goodness in your acts of thought, word, and deed. Enjoy this beautiful goodness, so real and so true.

What Do You Need?

"Vitamin C" is. Daily life is full of opportunities to notice or create experiences of inner strength, a psychological resource. Take it into yourself, making it a part of you.

What Are You Resisting?

It is easy to accept life’s beautiful things. It is the hard things in life that are hard to accept. The sweet spot is both by accepting the fact that they are what they are.

Love Your Neighbor

Compassion and kindness expresses an inner freedom. 

Love Someone

At a time when you may feel powerless about the wider world, at least locally, here and now, you can make a real difference. Love is never defeated. Heart after heart after heart.

Beware Of Anger

In small and passing quantities, anger can be like medicine, but in large and lasting quantities it poisons the mind and relationships.

Feed the Wolf of Love

The wolf of hate today breeds alienation, anger, and conflicts with others. The wolf of love is fed with our hearts and with hopes.

What Happens When You Look at Someone?

Though fast and efficient this process has lots of problems. As our ancestors evolved, rapid sorting of friend or foe was very useful but is it still.

Trust Yourself

Be your whole self; it's your whole self that you can trust. See what happens when you let yourself fall backward into your own arms, trusting that they will catch you.

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