Living With Intention

Intention is the power to redirect your thoughts. This power is limited. Here's how to grow it instead of wasting it.

Why Winning Feels Good

The facts of our brain’s natural competitiveness have been submerged by a warm and fuzzy view of nature. The truth can help us manage our quirky neurochemical operating system.

7 Habits of a Happy Brain

You can build new neural pathways by feeding your brain new experiences. Here's how to choose experiences that stimulate each happy chemical.

3 Reasons Why You Should Cuddle More

Cuddling can help you rewrite your history of trust, and enable you to enjoy feeling safe more often.

4 Steps to Calm Yourself When You’re Anxious

The human brain is good at creating anxiety, and we all feel threatened by tiny cues that were relevant long ago. You can undo your anxiety when you know how you created it.

Enjoy More Happy Brain Chemicals This Summer

These simple steps will help you avoid common drags on your mood so you can make the most out of your summertime fun.

3 Ways to Feel Better When a Coworker Gets on Your Nerves

When someone gets on your nerves, it’s a real thing. You can recover quickly from co-worker stress if you know these three facts about your brain chemistry.

5 Ways to Boost Your Mood When You Are Feeling Down

We all have moments when we feel blue. But what causes us to feel sad? How can we overcome it and feel happy?

How to Make Peace With Something You Cannot Control

When the world disappoints your expectations, your brain releases cortisol and it feels like an emergency. You can re-wire your brain to feel safe when you’re not in control.

How to Deal With People Who Drain Your Energy

Natural selection built a brain that seeks safety in numbers. Instead of spending all of your energy on the needs of others, you can start feeling good about focusing on yourself.

Get a Grip on Guilt in Three Simple Steps

Guilt is natural because your brain is designed to scan for threats, and social threats are survival threats to the brain we’ve inherited from earlier mammals.

5 Instant Energy Boosters You May Not Know

Your mental energy can sag in the face of tough challenges. It’s nice to know that your brain can release good feelings while you tackle challenges.

Globalizing Positive Psychology

Instead of researching well-being through culturally skewed self-reporting tools, let's focus on how our brain chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphin) work in animals.

The Selfishness of Altruism

Altruism feels good because it stimulates dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. In our quest for good feelings, we don't always monitor the results of our altruistic gestures.

Scientists Debate Whether Sex Feels Good

Do animals enjoy sex? The answer will help you understand why love is a neurochemical roller coaster today.

Why I Question Academic Research on Happiness

Academic research rests on the belief that “our society is the problem.” Here's what you lose when your information is filtered through a belief system.

20 Signs You Are Too Self-Critical

Recognize these not-so-obvious signs of self-criticism.

Three Reasons to Celebrate Global Belly Laugh Day Jan. 24

Belly laughs heal and strengthen. A wave of laughter will circle the world on Jan 24. Here's how to join, and get permanent benefits from making space in your life for laughs.

Defensiveness Hinders Recovery From Addiction

Commitment to recovery is undermined when defensiveness minimizes the impairment, make others responsible for it, or attacks solutions for failing to meet some arbitrary condition.

Why Are So Many People Unhappy?

Our brain evolved to scan for danger and we end up with a constant sense of threat until we know how we're creating it. Then you can easily rewire yourself to see the world in new ways.

Why We Love to Hate Politicians

You may think politicians deserve the hate spewed at them because others seem to feel that way. It helps to know that the mammal brain bonds around common enemies. The mammal brain seeks safe ways to oppose power. The mammal brain mirrors others and relies on old pathways. Your inner mammal feels good when you hate politicians, which lures you to forget that it's hate.

Want a Release? Myofascial Release Gave Me a New Body

If you're feeling tight and out of kilter, don't assume the problem is outside of you. Your fascia connect up every cell in your body and if they are stuck, you are stuck. You can feel good now by releasing your fascia.

A Mom-tervention

How do you find the courage to resist a bully? My cousin found it when her mother urgently needed protection from her father. They tried to sneak away when he wasn't looking, but the cat escaped and my cousin had to go back and face her Dad. In that moment, she learned to believe in her power to set boundaries. She will enjoy that skill forever.

Get Real About Teamwork

When a team mate is uncooperative, you may be tempted to ignore it to maintain the harmony. But if you do this all the time, fake cooperation gets confused with real cooperation. You shouldn't have to choose between team work and reality. Here's a way to have both.

Inside Out: Emotional Intelligence Made (Maybe Too) Easy

This movie makes it fun to ponder emotional conflict, but it needs a sequel on the risk of using sadness as a way to get love. Til then, we can learn more about our inner conflicts from gorgeous graphics than boring buzzwords.

Should You Confront Your Family?

A child’s desperate need for nurture can drive them to repeat any behavior that appears to get it. Whatever relieved pain in your youth built neural pathways that tell you how to feel good today. You can end up with a self-destructive pattern that’s hard to make sense of. Talking about it breaks the spell, and builds a healthy skill to replace it.

You Can Change Your Attachment Style

secure people create good relationships, even with anxious or avoidant partners. Secure people express their needs directly instead of playing games. They establish a dynamic that helps others feel safe expressing needs and negotiating mutually satisfying solutions.

Body Smart

Your diaphragm plays a huge role in your tension and relaxation.

Gamify Your Life

Computer games make it fun to confront obstacles. Wouldn't it be great if your real-life obstacles were as much fun to tackle? Now there are tools that "gamify" everyday life, to tap into the motivating power of computer games.

When Love Brings Pain - #3

Love is letting down your guard, and defensiveness is snapping it back up. You have good reason to be on guard sometimes, but defensiveness doesn’t get you what you want. Your partner quickly pulls up their guard too, and seconds later a good relationship is off the rails. Here are three alternative strategies.

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