GOP Declares War on Modern Sexuality

The 2016 GOP convention is contemplating strident stances that express opposition to our society's sweeping changes to sexual values and behaviors.

Porn vs. Religion

People are struggling over porn use—but their problems are consistently related to a conflict between their religious values and their sexual behaviors, not to porn itself.

First, Do No Harm – Legalizing Discrimination in Healthcare

When therapists are allowed to refer patients away based on religious beliefs, it causes harm. Healers are not supposed to harm their patients.

Political Values and Sex Research

Most people conducting sex research and therapy tend to be liberal. What are the implications of this, for the field, and its impact in media and society?

Shaming Men Doesn't Build Healthy Sexuality

Fear and panic-based dialogues about pornography are isolating men, shaming them and preventing conversations about how to help men be sexually healthy.

5 Sex/Relationship Myths Therapists Should Stop Believing

Things your therapist believes, but shouldn't.

We Must Rely on Good Science in Porn Debate

A response to Dr. Philip Zimbardo's exhortations about the dangers of porn

Grappling with Disabilities

People with disabilities can not only participate, but thrive, in the growing world of Brazilian jiu jitsu.

Why Men Send Pics of Their Junk

Online, men send unsolicited pictures of their genitalia. But why do men do it? The answer isn't as simple as "men are disgusting perverts."

Utah Declares War on Porn Epidemic

A Utah resolution continues the political efforts to blame society's sexual problems on the scapegoat of pornography.

Forensic Misuse of Sex Addiction

Despite sex addiction not being an accepted diagnosis, people keep trying to use it as a way to stay out of jail, keep their kids, or to hang onto their career.

Practical Advice for Parents Dealing With Bedwetting

Parents and children dealing with nighttime bedwetting often deal with tremendous shame around an embarrassing secret. But there are ways to deal with it.

5 Ways to Hack Your Nightmares

Learning what nightmares are, and what they aren't, is one of the first ways to remove their power.

Sex Addiction is About Morality, Not Sex

Study after study finds that sex addiction is about a moral conflict over sexuality, not about frequency of sex behaviors.

Is Trump’s Narcissism Really a Bad Thing?

We select leaders who tell us what we want to hear - that they have the answers and can fix things. Are we telling candidates we want them to be narcissists?

Stop Criminalizing Teens for Sexting

Teens will sext. They are technology natives, and have known texting and digital cameras their entire lives. Expecting them not to sext is like expecting them to masturbate without using their hands.

The Medicare Behavioral Health Failure

Despite the growing recognition of a mental health crisis in the United States, one of the country's largest funders of healthcare continues to provide grossly inadequate coverage of behavioral health.

Who Is The Real Father of Sex Addiction?

Who is the true father of sex addiction? Could it be a man who treated homosexuality as an addiction?

Your Belief in Porn Addiction Makes Things Worse

New research shows that the belief that one is a porn addict causes psychological suffering over time. This is an important wake-up call to the many people who tout the idea that porn is addictive. Their promotion of this concept is akin to those who have exploited people by selling dangerous quack remedies which ultimately caused harm.

Josh Duggar, Porn Addict?

Embattled Christian reality television star Josh Duggar has blamed porn addiction and a battle with Satan for the latest sex scandal, as he is revealed in the Ashley Madison data dump.

The ICD-10 Transition: You’re Probably Doing it Wrong

On October 1, 2015, healthcare providers in the US go through a major change to billing and diagnosing. This change has huge implications, and frankly, many providers aren't ready. This blog is intended to share some of my lessons learned, in hopes of helping others to minimize impacts on their agencies and patients.

Psychology Can Explain Why Psychologists Failed Their Ethics

It is the theories, research and findings of psychology itself, which can help us to both understand, and heal the wounds created by the ethical failings of the American Psychological Association's role in torture.

Bisexuality, Not Addiction

Men who struggle with bisexual attractions are often called sex addicts. Unfortunately, this label doesn't help, and often perpetuates homophobia and religious bias against homosexuality.

Can We Choose Our Identity?

Caitlyn Jenner, Rachel Dolezal, Barrack Obama. The news today is filled with a debate about how much choice and control we truly have, over defining who and what we are.

5 Steps (Finally!) to Get a Song out of Your Head

Next time you find a song playing in your head, try this simple technique to kill that earworm dead.

Homosexuality is Not an Addiction

Clinicians and programs who provide conversion or gay reparative therapies are now using a new treatment justification, claiming that homosexuality is an addictive disorder.

Stop Using Fear to Promote Treatment for Mental Illness

Today, the fear of the moment is the risk of violence from the mentally ill. Tragedies abound in our media, and sadly, many can be linked to mental illness. Particularly untreated mental illness.But, reactionary responses to mental illness merely guarantee more problems in the future.

The Politicization of Mental Health

Shootings, deaths and tragedies involving mental illness fill our news every day. Politicians are talking about mental health more than ever before. But, most political efforts to reform these issues ignore the deep underlying issues of funding, regulatory complexity and access which inhibit real reform.

The NoFap Phenomenon

The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

Resources for Non-Monogamous Relationships

People exploring non-traditional relationships are often left out of relationship self-help resources. Here's a list of some of the guides, resources and materials that I often recommend.