Turns Out, Porn Doesn’t Kill Love

A 1989 study found that porn made men love their wives less, but these findings could not be replicated in more recent research.

6 Ways to Develop Sexual Integrity

There ARE ways to help people develop sexual integrity, and to resolve the conflicts between their values and their sexual desires and behaviors.

Please Keep Your Emotional Support Iguana Off My Couch

Emotional support animals offer valuable assistance. But sometimes, therapists need to focus on helping people develop alternative strategies of soothing and anxiety-reduction.

No, You Cannot Get Attached to Porn

Blaming porn-related personal and relationship problems on addiction disturbance is the worst form of pseudoscience - it's also potentially iatrogenic.

Condoms in Porn: A Solution in Search of a Problem

A proposed law in California intends to require condom use in porn. But do such restrictions have an impact on the safety of performers or viewers?

The Sexual Lie Detector

The polygraph is widely discredited as a valid tool for detecting deception. So why are therapists and clinicians calling it a way to "keep sex addicts honest"?

Repairing the Damage of Abstinence-Based Sex Education

Only through good, real-world, holistic sex education can our country recover from the damage we've done to teens by promoting abstinence.

The President of Sex

In this campaign, we've heard about candidate's genitalia, seen nude pictures of a possible First Lady, and witnessed an election sink below the level of locker room conversations.

How Common Are Sex-Related Injuries?

People often report sex-related injuries, from masturbation or vigorous passion. How common are these experiences, and are they evidence of people being "out of control"?

GOP Declares War on Modern Sexuality

The 2016 GOP convention is contemplating strident stances that express opposition to our society's sweeping changes to sexual values and behaviors.

Porn vs. Religion

People are struggling over porn use—but their problems are consistently related to a conflict between their religious values and their sexual behaviors, not to porn itself.

First, Do No Harm – Legalizing Discrimination in Healthcare

When therapists are allowed to refer patients away based on religious beliefs, it causes harm. Healers are not supposed to harm their patients.

Political Values and Sex Research

Most people conducting sex research and therapy tend to be liberal. What are the implications of this, for the field, and its impact in media and society?

Shaming Men Doesn't Build Healthy Sexuality

Fear and panic-based dialogues about pornography are isolating men, shaming them and preventing conversations about how to help men be sexually healthy.

5 Sex/Relationship Myths Therapists Should Stop Believing

Things your therapist believes, but shouldn't.

We Must Rely on Good Science in Porn Debate

A response to Dr. Philip Zimbardo's exhortations about the dangers of porn

Grappling with Disabilities

People with disabilities can not only participate, but thrive, in the growing world of Brazilian jiu jitsu.

Why Men Send Pics of Their Junk

Online, men send unsolicited pictures of their genitalia. But why do men do it? The answer isn't as simple as "men are disgusting perverts."

Utah Declares War on Porn Epidemic

A Utah resolution continues the political efforts to blame society's sexual problems on the scapegoat of pornography.

Forensic Misuse of Sex Addiction

Despite sex addiction not being an accepted diagnosis, people keep trying to use it as a way to stay out of jail, keep their kids, or to hang onto their career.

Practical Advice for Parents Dealing With Bedwetting

Parents and children dealing with nighttime bedwetting often deal with tremendous shame around an embarrassing secret. But there are ways to deal with it.

5 Ways to Hack Your Nightmares

Learning what nightmares are, and what they aren't, is one of the first ways to remove their power.

Sex Addiction is About Morality, Not Sex

Study after study finds that sex addiction is about a moral conflict over sexuality, not about frequency of sex behaviors.

Is Trump’s Narcissism Really a Bad Thing?

We select leaders who tell us what we want to hear - that they have the answers and can fix things. Are we telling candidates we want them to be narcissists?

Stop Criminalizing Teens for Sexting

Teens will sext. They are technology natives, and have known texting and digital cameras their entire lives. Expecting them not to sext is like expecting them to masturbate without using their hands.

The Medicare Behavioral Health Failure

Despite the growing recognition of a mental health crisis in the United States, one of the country's largest funders of healthcare continues to provide grossly inadequate coverage of behavioral health.

Who Is The Real Father of Sex Addiction?

Who is the true father of sex addiction? Could it be a man who treated homosexuality as an addiction?

Your Belief in Porn Addiction Makes Things Worse

New research shows that the belief that one is a porn addict causes psychological suffering over time. This is an important wake-up call to the many people who tout the idea that porn is addictive. Their promotion of this concept is akin to those who have exploited people by selling dangerous quack remedies which ultimately caused harm.

Josh Duggar, Porn Addict?

Embattled Christian reality television star Josh Duggar has blamed porn addiction and a battle with Satan for the latest sex scandal, as he is revealed in the Ashley Madison data dump.

The ICD-10 Transition: You’re Probably Doing it Wrong

On October 1, 2015, healthcare providers in the US go through a major change to billing and diagnosing. This change has huge implications, and frankly, many providers aren't ready. This blog is intended to share some of my lessons learned, in hopes of helping others to minimize impacts on their agencies and patients.

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