Emphasizing an egalitarian bond, reducing traditional gender roles, and focusing on emotional problem-solving to foster a shared intimate relationship is a healthy marital trend. For most couples, this results in greater marital satisfaction and security. The question is whether an intimate, egalitarian marriage promotes or subverts couple sexuality?
Sexually, one size never fits all. This motivating, empowering approach involves the woman valuing her unique sexual voice and their couple sexual style of desire, pleasure, eroticism, and satisfaction.
Helping couples develop a sexual style that integrates intimacy and eroticism is a major contribution of sex therapists to both couples and clinicians. This concept positions a couple as an intimate sexual team.
In movies sex is always spontaneous and highly charged. Both people feel powerful desire and are turned-on before touching occurs. The sex is short and intense, and everyone has multiple orgasms. Of course, it's always a new couple or an extra-marital affair - marital sex is almost never depicted in the movies. Married couples are not supposed to be "hot."