Are You Addicted to Approval?

A corollary of demanding approval is blind submission to others. This is a form of servitude that can enslave you mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically, and destroy your prospects for self-respect and happiness.

Can Screaming or Yelling Be Bad for Your Relationship?

Many people think that they can’t help raising their voices. They think it is “normal” and is largely out of their control. But is it really? So, why do people scream or yell in the first place?

How to Be Empathetic

“All you ever wants to do is try to fix things.” “You just don't get it.” Judgments like these and countless others verbalized or thought in the context of interpersonal relationships point to one popular problem: the lack of empathy for the other. This blog provides nine guidelines for addressing this block to successful relationships.

Tell Walter What's On Your Mind

This free online service can check your thinking for irrational ideas, and when it finds any, it lets you know.

Two Concepts of Oppression

Unless we change our idea about what oppression is and can be; and, unless we take a rational, cautious, evidence-driven inventory of our assumptions, collectively as a global community, and individually as its citizens, we may never come to know just how oppressed we really are, and may soon be.

How Can You Become a Philosophical Counselor?

In the United States, there are two main associations that train philosophical counselors; but their ideas about what philosophical counseling is, and what clients they serve, are really quite different.

Control-to-Get-Approval Anxiety

Do you feel like you have to control things? Does the possibility of losing control make you anxious even when you think you should be enjoying yourself? If so, you may be suffering from control-to-get-approval anxiety. Find out how you can overcome this kind of anxiety without the use of anti-anxiety medication.

How Do You Know If You Have Fallen Out of Love?

Being able to recognize true cases of falling out of love can be very helpful because the confusion can lead to separation, divorce, and deep regrets for having acted precipitously.

Logic-Based Therapy to Go

Logic-Based Therapy (LBT) can help you to live more happily through the use of a little logic and a dose of applied philosophy. The theory grows out of one of the most influential psychological approaches in the history of psychology, namely, Albert Ellis' Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy.

Living with Someone who Constantly Complains

Does your significant other seem to be relentlessly complaining, invading your personal space with a steady stream of personal problems and negativity, leaving little or no room for you to share your own emotional life; refusing to stop? Find out how to cope more rationally and less stressfully with this situation.

What is Emotional Neglect?

The identification of emotional neglect is always the first step in addressing it. This is no small feat because one can spend many years in a dysfunctional, unhappy relationship due to emotional neglect, and not know quite why he or she is so unhappy.

Are You Really A Workaholic?

Are you a "workaholic" because you work long hours even though you don't need to? You may not really be one, but have been intimidated into thinking that there's something wrong with you. Find out whether you are being unfairly stigmatized!

Is There Love at First Sight?

Is there really such a thing as love at first sight? Many would claim that there is, and that they have had firsthand experience of it. But is this merely to confuse sexual attraction with love? Is love “at first sight” even possible; and what exactly does the qualification “at first sight” mean anyway?

Does Privacy Really Matter Anyway?

Recent polls show that a majority of Americans are not alarmed by the fact that the National Security Agency is collecting all of our email and phone conversations. But should they be?

Are You Making Love or Just Having Sex?

It is often said that “making love” is just a euphemism for “having sex.” Unfortunately, this is not true and may be responsible for your getting less out of your sex life than what you or your partner are capable of getting. Find out what love-making really is and how you can improve your sex life!

How Compatible are You with Your Significant Other?

Are you in or contemplating a serious relationship but wondering whether you are really compatible? Beware of some popular tests such as the idea that opposites attract. Instead, there are better standards you can apply to determine whether you are compatible enough with someone else to make a long-term commitment. Take the Functional Compatibility Inventory to find out!

Losing Mr. Right

The reality is that there are other “Mr. Rights.” This is because it is you who decides who is right for you.

Stop Playing the Blame Game

One of the most destructive human pastimes is playing the blame game. It consists of blaming another person/s for an event or state of affairs thought to be undesirable, and persisting in it instead of proactively making changes that ameliorate the situation. The drive shaft of this game is a series of four irrational beliefs.

Coming Out

I am an Afro-Caribbean whose wife is of the same cultural and national background. The challenge here is, I consider myself a lifelong atheist and she identifies strongly as a Christian. I am concerned about developing the art of living my atheism within predominantly religious, particularly Christian social environments.

Are You Your Own Person?

To be happy, said John Stuart Mill, you need to be your own person. But what exactly does this mean? And how do you personally measure up? These are questions I want to address in this blog.

How Good Are You at Loving?

You can get better (or worse) at loving someone. It is also possible to rank how well you are doing at loving someone. In fact, I will provide a “love inventory” that will help you to determine just how good you (or your significant others) really are at loving.

Is Your Own Happiness Really Irrelevant?

I waste so much of my life being unhappy that I feel like I am running out of time to be happy. Then I remember that the purpose of my life, of any of our lives, is not to be happy but rather to survive, to serve, to breed.... How do I seek comfort in life knowing that my happiness is totally irrelevant?

Why Are 99 Percent of Americans Fed Up? A Video Tells All

I have written extensively about the human rights concerns that are now driving the “occupy” movement. But this time, I have attempted to capture the gravity of several of these concerns in a new video production.

Stealing from the Rich

Would it be morally acceptable to steal food from a wealthy agricultural corporation if your intentions were to give it to the poor?

Does It Pay to Be a Selfish SOB?

We all know people who have gotten quite far in their lives and careers through underhandedness, back-stabbing, dishonesty, and related manner of unethical behavior. But is it worth it in the end?

Are Evil People Crazy?

Most of us have our lists of people whom we regard as profoundly evil. And a number of us also think that the people on our lists are mentally ill, deranged, insane, or crazy. But is being evil really a mark of mental illness? Can moral character determine mental health?

Is it Okay to Feel Guilty?

While some occasional guilty feelings can be a spur to making constructive changes, excessive, chronic guilt can destroy the quality of your life. Paying careful attention to the factors discussed in this blog can be an important start to overcoming your irrational guilt.

Some Tips on Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

Many partners who fail to reach a climax during sexual intercourse have no underlying physical problem. Instead, the problem may be due in part or whole to worrying about not being able to perform. In such cases you may need a bit of old fashioned reason rather than a Viagra pill!

The Fear of Losing Control

This fear will not go away even when you are inebriated or tranquilized; for there is always the future, with its uncertainty, which bleeds through the flimsy veneer of all such makeshift, temporary hiding places. Tranquility is not an option unless you let it be.

For Moms Who Worry a Lot

It is a good thing to want your kids and other members of your family to be happy and to want to be there for them. But a problem with many moms who worry a lot is that these wants or desires do not stay at the level of wants or desires.