The holidays are generally thought of as a time for potential relapse of any addiction, and sex addiction is no exception. In working to stay "sober" during this time, people suffering from sexual addiction need to be aware of triggers and to create a guide for themselves to make it through this time without reverting to the destructive patterns of behavior that served as an escape but ultimately an ineffective means for coping.
Why is the holiday season an especially tricky time? We are told relentlessly on television, at the movies, at our workplace and at school that this time of year is the most fun, spiritual, exciting, intimate, etc. In reality, for many people it can trigger an intense need to escape and/or act out because:
So what's the solution? How does the sex addict avoid relapse during the holidays? The following are a few tips for keeping yourself safe and sober:
Remember, urges will pass. Sometimes it can be helpful to just remind yourself if you are feeling the pull to revert to those old, reliable escapes that those behaviors really never made you happy during and only made you feel terrible afterwards. The urge is like a wave that peaks in intensity but will pass. And afterwards, you will feel one step freer of the destructive patterns that have dragged you down in the past. And one step closer to a richer and truly happier life.
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