The Heart of the Matter

Peter Gabel's new book helps us understand the sources of loneliness, fearful retreats into false self relationships,and how changing the world involves overcoming these obstacles
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Why Do Some Men Engage in Sexual Exhibitionism?

One of the weirdest sexual behaviors exhibited by some of the men busted for sexual harassment is masturbating in front of a woman (e.g. Louis C.K.). The real cause is anxiety.

Gary Taubes's New Book Puts Sugar On Trial

In The Case Against Sugar, science writer Gary Taubes shows how Sugar fronts distorted science and politicized nutrition politics to sell what Taubes shows is actually a a poison.

The Decline of Empathy and the Appeal of Right-Wing Politics

Child psychology can teach us about the current GOP.
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Bring Depression Out of the Closet

Depression and anxiety have always stigmatized as weaknesses. Bruce Springsteen recently admitted to a lifetime of it. We should follow his lead.
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Bruce Springsteen: Born to Be Honest

Bruce Springsteen's new book, "Born to Run," is not only a meticulous account of his rise to musical fame, but reflects insights born of over 30 years of deep psychotherapy.

People Basically Want to Be Healthy, Not Stay Sick

People want to be healthy, to form loving attachments, feel independent and have a sense of agency. Inhibiting beliefs formed in childhood interfere. But no one wants to be sick.

Boys Will Be Boys

Masculinity is based on the suppression of vulnerability and dependency. It is not only socialization that's the culprit but the problem boys have separating from female mothers

Psychology, Learning, and the Serenity Prayer

Tolerate failure in order to succeed.This is true if you golf or play a sport, write, or pretty much do anything that requires learning and mastery. The Serenity Prayer says it all

Automation Takes Jobs and Universal Basic Income Might Help

Artificial intelligence, robotics, and the rise of freelance or "gig" economy, is eliminating millions of jobs and we need a Universal Basic Income to deal with it.

Trump, Sanders and the Longing for Authenticity

We are so used to the phony kabuki dance of politicians and are so estranged from each other, that we seek authenticity & see it in Trump's demagoguery and even Sanders' directness
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Hillary Plays the Cynicism Card

Cynicism results from the frustration of our needs for meaning and purpose and plagues our politics.

Waking Up From War and Healing our Wounded Warriors

The PTSD seen in vets is reinforced by social attitudes of dissociation, denial, and neglect. Healing requires community.

The Politics of Loneliness

The verdict is in: Loneliness is on the rise in America today. We all suffer from it. The Right speaks to it through jingoism and scapegoating. Progressives need to address it too

Phones With Buttons

Modern corporate practices involving customer and technical support lead to long and frustrating waits. These frustrations are viewed by corporations as the cost of doing business.

The Imposter Syndrome in Progressive Leaders

Progressive political leaders have a special version of the Imposter Syndrome, a set of beliefs in public leaders that they don't deserve the power and authority that they actually have. For progressives, this often stems from a guilty over-identification with the underdog. They react my diminishing their power and status to their own detriment and that of their movement

The Science of Addiction and Recovery

Common sense says that something becomes addictive because of its intrinsically powerful attraction. Johann Hari and other have shown that this is wrong, and that the context is crucial. By context they mean the history of emotional abuse, neglect, and isolation. Recovery groups, at their best, work because they provide a contradictory context of love and community

Putting Trump and the GOP on the Couch

The GOP presidential candidates appeal to needs for safety and security through grandiosity and paranoia. Psychologists can help us understand how American Exceptionalism and xenophobia function to counteract feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, isolation, and self-blame, all of which are on the rise. Paranoia and grandiosity are pathological solutions.

It's NOT the Economy, Stupid!

Liberals mistakenly believe that people are motivated primarily by narrow economic self-interest. Research and clinical experience shows this belief to be mistaken. Needs for meaning, purpose, community, recognition, and agency are every bit as important as so-called "survival needs" (a la Maslow), and the progressive movement needs to speak to these needs if it is to win.

Beyond Bread and Butter

Progressive political activists are too fixated on economic inequality and justice, reflecting a narrow and incorrect view of what people really need.

Why We Cry at the Movies

Paradoxically, people don't cry or get sad during the tragic or tense parts of a movie, TV show, or book. They cry when there is a resolution to the psychically distressing situation. During the tense/tragic scenes, they feel too vulnerable to cry or get emotional. They experience these feelings only when it is safe to do so. Safety makes it possible to lift repressions

Why People Are So Mean to Immigrant Children

The current wave of hostility toward the influx of Central American children has its psychic roots in, first, a need to project unacceptable needs and shameful vulnerabilities onto others who then become the "enemy," and, second, by scapegoating these children, some people feel a momentary sense of community based on an "us-vs-them" or "insider-outsider" experience.

We are a Nation on Hold

Everyone has had the experience of endless waiting on the phone for help of some kind. Although affecting people in slightly different ways, the universal reaction is helplessness which leads to depression or rage. This reaction mirrors and reinforces other areas of our lives where we are powerless. For extreme conservatives, such feelings get displaced onto government.

Your Therapist Probably Has One of These Nine Blind Spots

Psychotherapists often apply theories that aren't specific to the client. They are guided by "principles of technique" learned in training and, unfortunately, gloss over the unique needs of clients. There are exceptions to every rule, thereby rendering the rule weak or invalid. The only useful clinical generalization involves creating a safe space unique to each person.

Psychotherapy Is Much Simpler Than You Might Think

The process by which psychotherapy works is made too complicated. 2 researchers, Joseph Weiss and Harold Sampson, have published research over 50 years, arguing persuasively that people suffer from "pathogenic beliefs" that interfere with normal developmental aims and that the role of the therapist is to provide insight and corrective experiences to cure their suffering.

Coaching Myths

The coaching profession is now wedded to the false and self-serving notion that it is significantly different from psychotherapy. In order to promote such a belief it has to caricature psychotherapy and hide its own (normal) pecuniary and status-driven self-interest

Who Is Speaking Up for the Insured?

Most people have health insurance, but progressives focus on those who don't or on the limitations in the plans of those that do. But the people who have insurance suffer in many other ways--e.g. short appointments with busy distracted doctors, indifferent front offices, bureaucracies--all of which diminish health outcomes. We need to put the care back in health care.

How Do You Know Your Shrink Is Helping You?

The psychotherapy field is a Tower of Babel of multiple professions and schools of thought. Therefore, it's difficult for patients to judge whether they are getting the help they need. Tragically, failures of a therapist are often internalized by patients who feel more hopeless. Five guidelines are presented to help patients evaluate their therapists and their treatment

Why Psychologists Will Miss James Gandolfini

The narrative arc of Season 1 of the Sopranos amounts to Tony's dawning awareness of the intolerable truth of his mother's hatred. In this, Tony is Everyman. Like all of us, Tony would rather be "a sinner in heaven than a saint in hell;" that is, he'd rather see himself as "bad" rather than face the badness of a parent. When confronted by this in therapy, he explodes.

A New Paradigm of Golf Instruction

Mindfulness and other lessons from contemplative traditions have become increasingly important in sports coaching. In golf instruction, the pendulum has begun to swing from a focus on “fixing” what's “broken” with “tips” to deepening a golfer's experience of different aspects of the swing and an increased emphasis on becoming mindful of the present moment.