When something works, we think it works fast

There are lots of products that we use because we think they are going to affect our body in some way. When we're tired, we might drink coffee or Red Bull to make us more alert. When we're in pain, we might pop a few Advil to make the pain go away. For all of these products, it takes some time for them to have an effect.How do we judge how long it takes for them to work?

Talking about products and preference for products

For a little over a week, I have been in Europe. Last week, I was in Italy, and this week I'm teaching a class at the New Bulgarian University in Sofia, Bulgaria. I have been to both countries before, and my past experience was that the food in Italy is spectacular, while the food in Bulgaria is not.Last week in Pescara eating a particularly delicious ravioli, it might make sense to say, "Wow, the food in Italy is fantastic." But, if I had eaten a disappointing slice of pizza (which never happened), I might have said, "This slice of pizza is disappointing." On the other hand, last night's dinner in Bulgaria was passable, leading me to conclude that the food in Bulgaria is disappointing. Lunch today was quite good, though, and so I might be tempted to comment that this particular meal was enjoyable.

Can living abroad make you more creative?

These days, the word multicultural has both positive and negative connotations. On the one hand, the world is becoming a smaller place. The internet allows us to talk to people from all over the world with no delays. Airplanes allow you to be somewhere else in a matter of hours. Success in the modern world requires understanding something about people from other cultures. 

Sometimes self-control is belief-control

One of the hardest things for people to do is to resolve the tradeoff between short-term and long-term goals. For example, if you are trying to stick to a diet, it can be difficult to avoid a tempting piece of cake or a fresh gooey cookie straight from the oven.

Agreeing to disagree: The difference between talking at and talking with someone else.

Public discourse is no longer about conversation. That is a real shame. We have gotten used to speeches and sound bites. Even when individuals with opposing views appear on TV or the radio, they tend not to talk with each other. They simply talk near each other.This absence of conversation among people who disagree has pervaded our own lives as well. Difficult topics like politics, race, and sexual orientation are broached carefully in public. Often, people tentatively express views and only elaborate if they come to believe that the other people in the conversation agree with them.Why does this matter?

The upside and downside of testing

Multiple-choice tests are everywhere. Teachers use them, because they are easy to grade and there is an objectively correct answer. Aptitude tests also use them for similar reasons. The internet is full of trivia quizzes with odd questions followed by a series of potential answers.When people are preparing to take a test, they often study by taking practice tests. How do these practice tests affect performance on later tests?

I Like You and Everything About You

When you look back over your relationships with people there is a common pattern. You meet them and you feel an overall sense that you like them. If something goes wrong with the relationship you look back and realize that there were all sorts of other attributes that you didn't notice, and then you blame yourself for not seeing the negatives from the beginning.

When will this streak end?

People have two very different responses to streaks. For example, when watching a basketball game, we see a player hit two three-point shots in successive trips down the court, and we expect him to make a shot on the next trip down the court. The idea that a streak is highly likely to continue is a belief in a hot hand.However, if you are playing roulette at a casino, and the lands on a red number 4 times in a row, you expect that there is a good chance that it will land on black the next time. The idea that the odds that a streak will end go up as the streak gets longer is called the gambler's fallacy.Just looking at these two reactions, it is clear that sometimes we expect streaks to continue and other times we expect streaks to end. What determines which of these reactions we are going to have?  

Anniversaries, milestones, categories, and round numbers

This is the 171st entry I have written for Ulterior Motives. That seems like a strange announcement to make. When reading entries by my fellow bloggers, I have seen people introduce themselves by saying this is their first entry. I have seen bloggers highlight their 50th post. But, 171?What's wrong with 171 anyhow?  

The value of being a multicultural warrior: Improved negotiation skill

I had a ham radio license as a kid. I would spend hours with a pair of headphones on listening for weak signals from around the world. It was exciting to have the chance to have a brief conversation with someone in Europe or Asia or the Middle East. Picking out the faint signals from among the static made the world feel like a big and mysterious place.The world seems smaller now.  

People reestablish trust only when they believe in change

Trust is crucial in any close relationship. When you make plans with a friend, you have to trust that he will show up at the appointed place at the appointed time. When you make a business deal with someone, you have to trust that she will follow through with her end of the bargain. Not everyone lives up to their end of every bargain, though. What factors determine whether you will trust someone again? 

How Can You Predict How Other People Feel About Themselves?

One of the frustrations that comes with close relationships is the difficulty of seeing other people as they see themselves.