What I Would Change Were My Health Restored Tomorrow

In my last piece, I wrote about what I wouldn’t change if I regained my health. Here’s what I would change...

What I Wouldn’t Change If My Health Were Restored Tomorrow

I’ve lived with chronic pain and illness for over 15 years. This is the first of two pieces on the subject of what I would and what I would not change should I regain my health.

Finding Peace and Contentment No Matter Where You Are

The only way I can describe this experience is to say it was a moment of wishlessness.

10 Strategies to Try When You’re Sick of Being Sick

After fifteen years of chronic illness and writing a book titled "How to Be Sick," I still can feel sick of being sick.

What to Do When Your Parent-Caregiver Is a Narcissist

I wanted to interview Meredith again so I could get some pointers on how the chronically ill can effectively deal with a parent-caregiver who is self-absorbed and manipulative.

Why Is Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Still a Mystery?

After fifteen plus years of suffering from this illness with little relief from symptoms, I often feel forgotten by the medical community.

Mindfulness: The Gift of Taking Refuge in the Present Moment

The beauty of this practice is that it grounds you in the present moment, and this provides welcome relief from ruminating about the past and worrying about the future.

7 Pet Peeves About Doctors

Unless studies show that there’s no connection between a medication and a particular side-effect, the doctor should be saying, “We don’t know.”

A Day in the Life Without Government

It’s simple really. We need government and government needs us. This "Day in the Life" hypothetical illustrates why.

Pacing: The Chronically Ill Person’s Best Friend

I have a love-hate relationship with pacing. I love it because it keeps my symptoms from flaring. But I also can ignore it because it keeps me from doing everything I want to do.

3 Effective Techniques for Alleviating Worry

No matter what you find yourself worrying about, here are three techniques to keep that worry from overwhelming you.

15 Tips from 15 Years Sick

There’s been one constant in my life since I began writing for Psychology Today five years ago: chronic illness. Because 10 + 5 = 15, it’s time for “15 Tips from 15 Years Sick.”

Change Your Painful Habits With a Mindful Review of Your Day

It’s one thing to wake up and set the intention to be aware throughout the day of your thoughts, emotions, speech, and actions. It’s quite another to be able to do it.

When You’re Chronically Ill: “Giving Up” Versus “Giving In”

Giving up can make you feel like a failure, as if you’re mentally weak and undisciplined By contrast, giving in is a type of surrender. I think of it as sweet surrender.

After 5 Years of Writing for Psychology Today: My Favorites

This month marks my five-year anniversary of writing for Psychology Today online. It’s hard for me to believe, but this is my 184th piece, Here are my ten personal favorites.

A Sure-Fire Way to Silence Your Inner Critic

Most of us have been conditioned from childhood to be our own harshest critics. That inner judge can shadow us, scrutinizing our every move and making us quite miserable.

When Should the Chronically Ill See a Doctor? Here's a Guide

I hope these guidelines are helpful. If you’re in doubt as to whether what’s happening warrants a trip to the doctor, err on the side of caution and make that trip.

A Secret for Surviving a Rough Day

The next time you think you can’t cope, try gently saying to yourself, “It’s just a day in the life; you’ll make it.”

Oscar Winners About the Physically and Mentally Disabled

This is not an exhaustive list. (I haven’t seen every Oscar-winning film!) That said, here are descriptions of twelve films that moved me deeply, from newest to oldest.

"Should I or Shouldn’t I?" The Dilemmas of Chronic Illness

I’m aware that those of us who struggle with our health don’t have a monopoly on being faced with dilemmas in life. We do, however, tend to share the same ones.

How to Live Compassionately: Forgive Yourself Forgive Others

Forgiveness is an act of compassion, the latter meaning reaching out to yourself and others to alleviate suffering. Forgiving yourself and forgiving others does just that.

A Day in the Life with Chronic Illness

Chronic pain and illness don't affect everyone the same way. That said, I’ve heard from people all over the world and our day-to-day lives are strikingly similar.

A Holiday Lesson on Interdependence from Martin Luther King

"We aren’t going to have peace on Earth until we recognize this basic fact of the interrelated structure of all reality." —Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

A Holiday Letter to Loved Ones from the Chronically Ill

It’s a hard time of year for me, and so I thought I’d write a holiday letter, but not the usual “here’s-what-I-did-this-year” kind.

More Indispensables for Those With Chronic Pain and Illness

My "comfort food" is a cup of decaf coffee with cocoa powder, stevia, and coconut milk in it...

10 Indispensables for Those with Chronic Pain and Illness

I know the joy of hearing the actual voice of a loved one. That said, email is the principal way I communicate with people...

Five Common Misconceptions About Trauma

Contrary to popular opinion, experiencing growth after trauma is far more common than PTSD. The new science of post-traumatic growth has found in thousands of studies that up to 90 percent of trauma survivors eventually attest to a renewed zest for life, major empathetic growth, and increased emotional maturity.

Stick to the Facts to Keep Stress and Anxiety at Bay

I’ve learned that I can save myself a lot of needless stress and anxiety if I catch myself before I start spinning stories that go beyond my direct experience.

20 Tips for Living Well with Chronic Pain and Illness

Herein, a list of 20 tips to help with the health challenges all us face at one time or another in life.

Multitasking + Chronic Pain and Illness = Bad Idea!

I want to share a story about how I recently put my relationship with multitasking to the ultimate test…and failed miserably.