Scaffolding Is Good, Hovering Is Bad: A Guide For Parents

Are you a supportive, concerned parent or a smothering, hovering helicopter one? Three telltale signs that signal the difference.

Going to College? A Short List of Things Students Have to Know

Finances, housekeeping, and manners. Is your child ready for college? They're walking out the door. A short list of things they really have to know.

Listening to Words that Aren't Said: Terry Pratchett and the Witches

Listening to your own inner voice can tell you it's time to look for the important words not said.

It Takes 40 Weeks To Build a Baby: WAIT!

Is a few weeks' discomfort and a little inconvenience worth the health of your baby?

Five Tips for a Happy Family Summer

Flexibility, structure, a bit of work and a lot of fun make lazy summer days 'just happen'.

Is Your Teen Trustworthy? Can You Tell?

All kids lie sometimes, but some lie much more than others. Can you tell who is who?

Old Fashioned Letters and Ponderosa Pines: Musings on Time and Communication

Letters disperse thoughts and emotions through time, as well as space.

You Can't Win: Why Parents Feel Guilty

Does 'fabulous' parenting really land kids in therapy?

Traveling Abroad? Eight Tips for Keeping Your Foot OUT of Your Mouth

A little observation, a tiny bit of work, and a smidge of courtesy can keep you from sticking your foot in your mouth and help you truly enjoy your visit.

How To Give a Great Presentation: Just Do It!

Five tips on how to give a great presentation or run an effective meeting.

Don't Kick That Pigeon! What Psychology Owes the Dove

How the lowly pigeon taught us to work effectively with autistic children and understand the development of delinquency.

Fifty Things I Love About My Mother

Parenting isn't just work, a skill, or a tool to optimize child development. It's an expression of who you are.

Walking In Another Person's Boots: Backyard Chickens 2

Chickens used to be a pervasive part of people's lives - and that's reflected in our language. Now that I know them, my view of language and literature has changed too.

Want Your Tween To Open Up? Listen!

When moms respect children's boundaries, kids respond by bringing those boundaries down. But it's not warmth that does it. It's listening. And they're not the same thing.

Walking on Eggshells: When Good Parenting Becomes Prying

When does good parenting cross the line to prying and spying? Parents and kids disagree in surprising ways.

Backyard Chickens Part I: Babyness

I wanted the chickens for the eggs, and to feel closer to nature. It made relative economic sense and fit into my longstanding garden, fishponds, and love of the old fashioned. I didn't expect them to be so darn CUTE.

Get Out! Sneaky Kids and Prying Parents Make a Toxic Mix

Do parents who pry know more about their teen's lives?

Is the science behind sniffer dogs bogus?

Are sniffer dogs effective or are do they only reflect their handlers' prejudices?

If Psychology is Interesting, Why Aren't Scientific Psychology Papers?

The creative act of doing science is different than the creative act of making art. In the arts, the prototypic act of creativity is one that throws out old ideas and does something NEW. Creativity in the sciences is different.

Questions From China About the US's Tiger Mom Obsession

A major Chinese magazines asks why Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom has received so much attention in the US.

Chores Are Good for Kids

Families should be about people helping each other sharing mutual respect and responsibility.Kids who contribute to the household can feel good about what they do, learn the value of being genuinely appreciated, and develop a deep sense of appreciation - what the Dalai Lama calls one of the 10 signs of true happiness.

Who's On First: Abbott & Costello, Flashcards & Cognition

In the middle of practicing Spanish flash cards, I found myself in Abbot and Costello's classic Who's On First dialogue.  As Piaget learned, sometimes little errors tell you something important about how kid's think differently than adults.

Caledonian Crows Parent Pretty Well Too

Caledonian crows stand apart from their fellow corvids in the flexibility and sophistication of their toolmaking.  Their family life also stands apart.  They live in nuclear families, the parents bond and groom one another, and the children enjoy an extended childhood, long apprenticeship, and occassionally indulgent adolescence.

Why Threats Don't Work: Parenting Effectively

The mom looked down, shocked, at her bare legs and worn underpants. She was standing at the edge of a crowded gym. Her 4 year old crowed triumphantly, holding the skirt he had just tugged to her ankles, his eyes on her face and ready to run.

Flinching from the Tiger Mom

In her new book on Tiger Moms, Amy Chua talks about not letting her daughters watch TV, forcing them to play the piano and/or violin, not letting them be in sports or participate in school plays, and refusing to let them have have play dates or go on sleepovers. She's called her daughters 'garbage'. What we can learn from her anyway.

Why Child's Play is Tough on Parents Part 2: The Mess

Keep the play. Lose the mess. If you're not happy, they won't be either.

Why Child's Play Is Tough for Parents: Part I

Play is the natural way for kids to learn, grow, be happy, and fit into the world they will inhabit as adults. But they don't just do it themselves. They want to do it with YOU.

Close Your Laptop and Look At Your Kids

Three reasons you'll keep reading this even when your kids want attention.

Feeling confident about confidence intervals

Psychologists want to learn the truth about how real people think, feel, and behave. But all we ever get to study are samples.