Dear Dr. G.,

I know that you are going to think that I am teasing you with this letter but I kid you not when I tell you that my teenager went to a sweet sixteen and colored condoms were in all of the kids' goody bags. Now, the parents had to know and approve of this I would assume. I have heard of sweatshirts, balloons, candy, and maybe even other sorts of fun items but condoms? Am I losing my mind? Is this acceptable in today's world?

My friends and I have discussed this and we all think that this was not okay. If these parents want to serve their kids condoms, then that is their business but if they want to give other kids' condoms it is a different story,right?

Please get back to us. We are a group of moms in the Midwest and we want to know if we are out of touch with what is happening in the rest of the U.S.

A Confused Mom

Dear Mom and Friends,

I would first like to reassure you that you are not out of touch with your culture. I was so surprised to hear that condoms were included in goody bags that I couldn't stop laughing at first. Here, in the Northeast we are not putting various forms of contraception in goody bags. You are certain that they were not balloons, right?

On a more serious note, putting condoms in the goody bags of teenagers is totally inappropriate. If these parents wanted to equip their own child with condoms that is one thing but giving other parents' kids condoms is a totally different issue and is certainly crossing a boundary.

This is not going to be easy, but I feel that as a group you need to talk to the parents who created these goody bags and let them know how you feel. It is this family who is out of touch with their culture.

You didn't say how the teens reacted to this. Can you write back and let me know? I also hope that I was reassuring to you and your friends.

Dr. G.

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