Practice Is the Foundation of Athletic Success

To be the best athlete you can be, you must be serious about your practice in every area that impacts your athletic performances—physical, technical, and mental.

Five Mental Obstacles That Prevent Sport Success

Mental obstacles refer to any psychological or emotional issue that interferes with your ability to perform your best consistently in the biggest competitions of your life.

7 Things Parents Can Do at the End of a Sports Season

The conclusion of a sports season can be a time of excitement, relief, and suffering for parents of athletes.

5 Attitudes You Need for Athletic Success

The dictionary definition of attitude is “The way you think and feel about something.” You hold attitudes about your sport that have a direct impact on how you perform.

4 Reasons Why Your Kids Should Play Sports

As any parent of young athletes knows, having your children participate in sports can be a real hassle.

5 Keys to Playing Your Best on Game Day

What do you need to do to play your best on game day? Here are 5 areas that I've learned from world-class and professional athletes.

A Sports Dad’s Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Great Day

We don’t live life in retrospect. If we could look into the future and know how our decisions will turn out, life would be easy…and quite uninteresting.

Every Day Can Be a Good Day of Sports Training

One of the most frequent comments I hear from the athletes I work with is: “I had a lousy day of training.” This statement is accompanied by bad-feeling emotions.

An Olympic Champion’s Holiday Gift #3: Risk

Risk taking is essential for success in sports. You just can’t play it safe and expect to win. Taking risks can mean the difference between goals achieved and hopes dashed.

Psychological Rehab After Sports Injury

When athletes get injured, their minds get damaged too, yet little attention is paid to the importance of “mental rehab” to a complete and timely recovery and return to sport.

An Olympic Champion’s Holiday Gift #2: Fight

It’s normal to get nervous before a competition, particularly a big one. You’re putting all of your efforts on the line and you want to succeed really badly.

An Olympic Champion’s 3 Holiday Gifts: #1 is Disappointment

No one likes to be disappointed. Your heart aches for the opportunity lost. But not allowing yourself to feel disappointed is another opportunity lost and a lesson not learned.

Sports Just Don’t Make Sense

Sports just don’t make sense. They don’t always go the way we want them to. Sports can be so frustrating. To the point where it’s easy to wonder why we devote so much time and energy to it. Let’s look at why sports don’t make sense. Sports are complex. Sports are unpredictable and uncontrollable. Nothing comes quick and easy in sports. Progress isn’t steady.

Letting Go of Fear of Failure-Part IV

Fear of failure is about the perceptions that you hold about failure and, for the vast majority of people, those perceptions are entirely disconnected from the reality of their lives. You perceive that bad things will happen if you fail, but the reality is that nothing particularly bad, aside from some disappointment, will likely result from a failure.

The Real Fear in Fear of Failure: Part III

The real fear is not failure, the meaning you attach to failure, or even total failure. Instead, the real fear of failure is about the fear of experiencing the painful emotions that young people think they will suffer if they fail.

Is the American Academy of Pediatrics Copping Out on Screens

Increasing the limits allowed for kids’ screen time or not offering time limits at all, either of which seem to be directions that the AAP is considering, flies in face of the fact that kids these days are already way out of balance in their use of technology.

You Won’t Find Athletic Success Without "The Grind"

No matter how much you love your sport and no matter how much fun it is in general, you have to admit that there are many specific aspects of being an athlete that are definitely not fun, especially the physical conditioning. I’m thinking of those cold early morning runs, those workouts in the rain or in the blazing heat of summer, those multiple sets of weights.

When Should Your Young Athlete Specialize?

This question torments every parent who wants to support their children’s efforts as they pursue their own personal greatness in a sport. If you want your kids to stay healthy, stay motivated, and perform better, the experts and the research say that multisport participation is the way to go. But the messages from our culture tell parents something very different.

Is Coding Camp a Good Thing? Answer: Not to Me

One of the booming trends in the 'youth-achievement-industrial complex' is computer coding camps (and after-school coding programs). I think this trend is driven by economic uncertainty that has created immense anxiety in parents for their children's futures. Also, a hyper-achievement culture in which parents feel compelled to 'keep up with the Joneses'.

Master Your Athletic Frustration

Every athlete, from juniors to Olympians and pros, has experienced the feeling of frustration when they’re not able to do something, whether physically, technically, tactically, or competitively: you feel stuck, get tense, lose focus, and get discouraged. The best way I can describe the feeling is: AAARRGGHH!! It is a truly infuriating feeling.

Don’t Waste Your Time (It’s Precious)

I’m a ‘timeist.’ A timeist is someone who discriminates against others who waste their time. I hoard my time like misers hoard their money and animals hoard their food. Time has become truly precious to me and any second not spent with people or activities I care about feels like time stolen from me with no chance of return.

The Death of Wonder (and the 3 Words That Killed It)

“I wonder.” is the wellspring from which engaged and expansive thinking emerges. Curiosity propels you to seek out an answer. You think creatively and innovatively. New ideas and discoveries blossom. Yet, none of this will happen if you or someone you are with blurts out the ultimate intellectual and creative buzzkill: “Let’s Google it!”

You Won’t Find Happiness at the Finish Line

We devote immense amounts of time, effort, energy, and money. Yet, that pursuit seems to be wholly unsatisfying and ineffective, as evidenced by the fact that there exists a ‘happiness-industrial complex’. One place that many people look for happiness is at the finish line. Yet, I can assure you that it can’t be found there.

The Ultimate Price of Our Hyper-Achievement Culture

In an earlier post, I described the high cost that pushing kids too hard can have on their lives. A truly tragic example of this trend is Madison Holleran, a U. of Penn student and athlete, who committed suicide in early 2014. On the surface, she was a happy and successful young woman. But inside there was turmoil.

Four Steps to Making Change an Opportunity Not a Threat

In general, people don’t like change. During primitive times, change was perceived as a threat to survival which triggered our ‘fight or flight’ response. Unfortunately, though we like to think that we have evolved far beyond our ancestors, the reality is that we are still quite primitive in some basic ways including our response to change.

Make Mental Training a Priority in Your Sport

I work with many athletes each year, from juniors with big dreams to pros and Olympians who are realizing their dreams. What is abundantly clear to me is that, once the foundation of fitness, technique, tactics, and equipment are established, it is the mind that separates athletes who achieve their goals from those who don’t.

There is No Formula or Timetable for Athletic Success

Wouldn't it be great if sports had a formula that you could follow to be successful? Imagine if you had a list of things you simply needed to do (for example: get into shape, hone your technical and tactical skills, get your equipment dialed in,) and, voila, you would have a 100 percent chance of performing your best and getting the results you want.

Are You a Free-Range Parent? You Should Be

Children need to have the freedom to explore their worlds on their own without parents acting like helicopters, always hovering around to "protect" them for the apparently dangerous world in which they now. Yet, our children are fenced in, literally and metaphorically, almost every moment of every day.

Sports Are Like Sleep

So, how are sports like sleep? You can’t TRY to play well. Forcing yourself to play well creates overthinking, muscle tension, and the attempt to control your body in the hopes that you can make your body play well. But, the harder you try to play well, the less likely you will play well. You want to allow great play to emerge naturally.

4 Rituals to Create a “Green Family”

One of the best ways to communicate any message to your children is through regular rituals that are woven into the fabric of your family’s lives. The consistency of intention and action help ingrain the messages you want your children to get most. The use of rituals is very effective in teaching your children about nature and environmental stewardship.

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