With all of the research that has been conducted on attraction, finding a mate, and predictions of long-term happiness in love, it seems unlikely to adequately narrow the empirical findings down to just three wishes. Somehow, Ty Tashiro, Ph.D. has done it in his new book, The Science of Happily Ever After. His book centers around the idea of needing to narrow to three wishes for a partner in finding long-term love, and teaches you how to be wise with what you choose. I just finished reading this book, and some of what I share with you here is based on what I learned while reading.
Finding a long-term mate was, not so long ago, a task that involved arrangements by parents or limitations of your geographical region. Times have changed, and with online dating, social networking, and a world made smaller with video chats and facetime, it is easier than ever to be overwhelmed with mate chocies.
Fear not! Based on the research, Tashiro figured you get three wishes to spend on picking an ideal partner. Here are three considerations as you fulfill three wishes when it comes to long-term happiness in love:
Based on previous relationship experiences, you can usually look back at what went wrong and prioritize the traits that you might actually need in a partner, rather than simply want. Once you figure out those important traits, remain realistic about what to expect in one person, and play out the odds of getting what you need. Adjust as necessary. Repeat.
Sounds a little too calculating, doesn't it? I tend to agree, and do think that although all of these calculations are probably important, it might be wise to allow your heart to sneak into your head a little bit here and there. Afterall, what's love without a little heart?