How To "Grow" Your Mental Health

The mental health field has ignored what a psychologically healthy life looks like, and what promotes it. Much information exists that can help build psychological health, but ironically, it's largely from research and sources outside the mental health professions.

Will Your Financial Success Cost You "Whole Life" Success?

The mounting stress and other physical and psychological damage from devotion to money, power, and status narrows your awareness of who you used to be, that you're no longer sure you're capable of becoming.

Why Your Therapist Should Go "Back to the Future"

A key insight of a group of psychoanalytic pioneers in the 1930s - early 1950s has been ignored in the decades since then. Yet that insight is highly relevant to helping the kinds of emotional conflicts people experience in today's world, and it's worth reclaiming.

Caught Between "Longing" vs. "Settling" In Your Marriage?

Midlife baby boomers experience increasing marital conflict as a result of the legacy of their early ideals. For many, that takes the form of feeling caught between "longing" to recapture a lost ideal, or "settling" for what they have, including their disappointments and frustrations.

Why Reading Serious Fiction Expands Your Mind and Soul

Reading serious fiction directly increases your capacity for empathy and compassion; the overall development of your being. That's important not just for psychotherapists, to increase their capacity for helping people, but for everyone. Now, new empirical research confirms it.

"Take This Job And..."

One survey reports that older workers are quite satisfied with their jobs. But a number of other surveys find high dissatisfaction, stress and negative experiences in their workplaces, including destructive, unsupportive management practices. Are there generational differences, or other hidden sources of explanation for this contradiction?

How To Tell If Your Workplace Is In Tune With Its Own Future

Ongoing changes in the larger culture, as well as in the orientation of workers towards career goals, will affect the future success of business organizations. Here are some guidelines for assessing how well your organization is in synch with what lies ahead.

Why The Impact of Child Abuse Extends Well Into Adulthood

The impact of child abuse extends well into adulthood. New research finds it has negative consequences for the adult's mental and physical health. But other research points to ways that can heal the damage and create healthy growth.

Why Do Men Feel Bad When Their Romantic Partners Succeed?

Research finds that men's self-esteem drops when their spouse or partner succeeds, but the findings suggest that many men feel threatened by social and cultural changes that undermine their traditional view of manhood, power and success in a relationship.

An "Inside-Out" Life Helps You Redefine Success

Building your inner life and awakening your true self provide the guidance for knowing what to go after, or let pass by, in your outer life choices -- in your career goals, material desires, and relationships.

Do Couples Prefer Conflict Over Shared Power?

Couples often become locked into adversarial conflict and emotional withdrawal. But research and observations from couples therapy show that they long for shared power, mutuality; and emotional exposure, transparency in their relationships.

Why Business Leaders Need To Build Greater Self-Awareness

CEOs and most other senior executives say they want help to develop their leadership, but most don't seek it. The reason lies in the programs offered. Most neglect the core capacity: building self-awarenss regarding motives, vulnerabilities, and the capacity for empathy.

Work-Life "Balance" Is Impossible—And Why That's Good

Strategies for dealing with rising stress in careers and family life focus mostly on ways to balance work and life and redefine success away from over-identification with pursuing money and power. But both work and are on the same side of the true scale: between your outer life and inner life. Knowing how to balance those is key to healthier well-being.

The Rise of McCarthyism Among Some Republican Politicians

The rise of McCarthy tactics of smear and innuendo reflect more than political motives. Psychologically, they are rooted in fears and denial regarding a disintegrating sense of manhood; one that's been rooted in power, material success and external status.

Why Today's Workplace Is so Destructive to so Many People

Surveys increasingly show how damaging the workplaces are to physical and mental health, but they tend to ignore the source: the leadership and management culture of companies, and the practices that result.

Research Shows Why "Learning" Compassion Leads to Altruism

New research demonstrates you can "learn" compassion in a fairly short time through meditation, and that this leads directly to increased altruism.

Do You Experience "Fear of Missing Out" at Midlife?

Midlifers have their own version of "fear of missing out." Facing it enables you to rethink what your reason for being is, now, during midlfe and beyond. It gives you the opportunity to rectify your past, your "karma," and learn to live with impermanence while evolving your life as you move into the future.

Redefining Success in a Post-Careerist Culture

The rise of work-related stress reflects a reaction against workplace and management cultures that fail to serve the need for continued learning, growth and having impact upon something larger than just self-interested goals of money, power, and position.

6 Steps to Wellbeing and Success in Our Turbulent World

Old formulations about psychological wellbeing and success are frozen in 20th Century thinking that emphasizes managing and coping with old traumas and conflict. Today's unpredictable and interconnected, changing world requires describing the emotions, mental perspectives and behavior that support continuous growth and positive adaptation to change.

How Does Having Power Over Others At Work Affect You?

Research about the impact of having power over others at work and in personal life is highly flawed by being based on artificial situations, employing college student participants, and then drawing broad conclusions about real-life situations with adult men and women.

If Everyone Is Disturbed, Then Who's Healthy?

The definition of emotional disturbance appears to keep expanding, but that highlights the absence of a definition of psychological health -- one that's relevant to today's rapidly changing world and the challenges it creates for relationships, work, and general wellbeing.

Why Meditation Makes You More Politically Liberal

Research finds that people adopt more politically liberal positions following meditation, regardless of whether they were more liberal or conservative prior to meditation. But there's a deeper significance to the study regarding the awakening of empathy and compassion that's triggered by meditation and developing one's inner life.

Why Your Fears Shape So Much Of Your Life

Fears underlie most life conflicts, and can remain unconscious drivers of actions and decisions. But research shows that it's possible to "evolve" your emotional life and awareness in ways that transform fears into positive actions and new growth.

Why Self-Deception Can Be Healthy for You

Some forms of deceiving yourself serve a positive purpose for your life

Loneliness Harms Your Health—and It's Increasing

Research shows that loneliness harms our health, but it's important to recognize that it's fueled by our social conditioning to seek self-worth through external criteria of recognition, money and power. A hollow inner life results, setting the stage for isolation and loneliness, whether by yourself or in a crowd.

Taking Down The Christmas Tree...With Elvis And My Kids

When my kids were no longer interested in an old family tradition I didn't want to accept it. But its demise helped me realize that impermanence and change are always occurring throughout our lives.

Hidden Psychological Roots of Gun Violence and Mental Health

The roots of gun violence committed by disturbed individuals lie in some destructive, negative values and behavior in our culture that promote disconnection, absence of empathy for those who are different from oneself, and extreme self-interest.

How Your Karma Can Undermine Midlife Growth And Renewal

Failing to accept and deal with the consequences of past actions can undermine new growth and vitality during midlife. Living with the impact of your past actions is the foundation for knowing how to alter your present and future.

Fallen Generals…And Our Own Private Truths

The Petraeus scandal is just an extreme, titillating version of a disconnect in many people's lives between their public self and private self; between outer lies and inner truths.

The Return Of "Mainstream" Republicans?

Historically, Republicans maintained their positions while also compromising with Democrats to achieve legislation that benefitted the country. We may see a return to their role as "collaborative adversaries" in the second term of the Obama administration.

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