Have you shared a well-told story with a teen or grandchild lately? The result could be transformative for both of you!
Stories help us see the world in new and different ways, and move us toward action. At their most basic level, stories connect people’s brains in ways that help them co-create new stories— stories that transform individuals and society over time. Stories touch us because they allow us to connect to other people’s joy, pain, and varied life experiences.
Neuroscience helps explain why storytelling stimulates rich inner learning and what we might learn from stories of people, young and old. Although stories are unscientific, often imprecise narratives of human thought, they help organize and integrate the neural networks of the brain (Oatley, 1992). A well-told story contains emotions, thoughts, conflicts and resolutions. Louis Cozolino, a clinical psychologist who applies neuroscience to how humans develop secure relationships, claims that stories are critical to brain development and learning (Cozolino, 2013).
There are two essential parts of a story that stimulate the brain, according to Cozolino. First, stories contain a series of events, grounded in a period of time. Second, there is an emotional component to stories that gives them meaning and significance. If part of fostering healthy youth development is about enabling children to find meaning from their life experiences, we can easily understand how stories give youth the mental templates for self-reflection. When youth feel connected to a story, their neuro networks are stimulated. Adults help young people unravel their feelings through reflective conversations.
Young people do the same for adults. When older adults engage in meaningful conversations with children and teens, they co-create new stories that help make sense of an ever-increasingly complex society. Adults continue to learn, grow, and adapt because their own neuro networks are alive and active.
The philosophy of John Dewey (1916, 1938) not only contributed to how we think about education but also how we frame an understanding of experience. He did not see an individual’s experience in reductionist terms, a way of thinking common in American society today. Rather, he viewed it as an ever-changing, constantly unfolding process created by personal, social, and cultural interaction. Dewey’s way of thinking emphasized ordinary life stories and how those stories helped individuals solve problems both personally and collectively.
I recently worked with a group of teens and elders in a six-week structured group experience where intergenerational pairs shared life stories with one another. The following reflections are part of an ongoing research project about how adults and teens influence each other’s positive development. The comments support the research on the power of stories, suggesting that intergenerational stories can bring meaning to life experiences and act as a conduit to learning.
When teens were asked what they learned from their elder partners through the experience of sharing stories with them, the following comments were reflective of many others:
When elders were asked what they learned from their teen partners, these comments were reflective of many others:
The learning shared by teens and elders above resulted from random pairings of high school students and community members over the age of 55. However, many left the six-week experience with goals to more deeply connect to their own grandparents or grandchildren. You might want to consider using these conversation starters to generate learning for young and old!
It is recommended that you tackle only one set of questions at a time. Allow plenty of time, give each person the opportunity to share a story or stories, and permit the stories and dialogue to take you wherever they are meant to go.
Scholars have linked storytelling to meaning-making for many years (Polkinghorne, 1988). It is through people’s stories that we develop our own views of the world. When we interact with people whose stories are different than our own, it forces us to reexamine our values and perceptions. For adolescents, it fosters the development of their identities.
Cozolino, L. (2013). The social neuroscience of education: Optimizing attachment and learning in the classroom: WW Norton & Company.
Dewey, J. (1916). Democracy and education: An introduction to the philosophy of education. New York, NY: MacMillan.
Dewey, J. (1938). Experience and education. New York, NY: Kappa Delta Pi.
Polkinghorne, D. E. (1988). Narrative knowing and the human sciences. Albany: State University of New York Press.
Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD, is a developmental psychologist and researcher, working at the intersection of positive youth development and education. Follow Marilyn's work at Roots of Action, Twitter, or Facebook.
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