In Honor of Mother's Day, I searched the web and selected the 11 best quotes about mothers. Psychological attachment theories suggest that the child's relationship with the parents forms the basis for adult relationships. The majority of children form secure attachments which allow them to use the parent as a safe haven from which to go out and explore the world. This results in adult attachment styles characterized by trust that others will be responsive to one's needs for nurturance, and trust in the self to safely negotiate relationships and challenges. If the attachment bond is disrupted by parental abandonment, abuse, inconsistent attachment or neglect, individuals may develop avoidant, anxious, or ambivalent attachment, characterized by a lack of consistent trust in self to function independently and/or in others to freely love and care for us. The attributes of a loving mother we see in the below quotes should result in a securely attached adult.
These quotes celebrate our culture's view on the love of a mother for her child, which is seen as unselfish, unconditional, intuitive, unique, forgiving, & everlasting. The mother is also seen as wise and powerful, protecting and caring for her family. While not everybody is lucky enough to have this type of mother, these images are cultural ideals, designed to inspire women to be the best mothers they can be. Perfection is not necessary, however. Since the majority of children develop secure attachments, It is sufficient to be a good, or "good enough" mother in order to cement the attachment bond.
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