Upstream vs. Downstream

Which metaphor best describes how to approach life: swim upstream against the current or swim downstream with the current?

There's More to a Flower Patch Than I Realized

Does planting a flower garden reflect good mental health?

I Was Motivated by Nostalgia Until Good Sense Kicked In

Have you ever wanted to do something for a very long time, but when the opportunity finally arrived you had second thoughts about it?

Losing Trust Is a Good Thing—Here's Why

People have lost their trust in authority—but no worries—this is a good thing.

Nobody Wants You to be Creative

Your boss, your co-workers, your friends, and even your family don’t want you to be creative.

Soft Porn Writer, Rock Star, and Others Weigh in on Freedom

I recall my father telling me when I was a child, "Your freedom ends where my nose begins." My father was always saying funny things, so at the time I wasn’t sure if he was joking.

Good Advertising is Rooted in Psychology

I tried to explain to him that there is a science to advertising. It’s not rocket science, but there are simple principles of psychology to be followed that insure an ad will work.

Here’s All You Need to Change the World

The world is a marketplace of ideas, opinions, and beliefs. What is the tipping point for any one of them?

These Stories Will Change Your Beliefs About Luck

I noticed some patterns among lucky people, what they consider to be luck, and in what seems to cause luck.

Why the Political Turmoil?

My purpose in writing this article is to ask everyone to notice how much we have in common. How we’re all motivated by the same things.

When Is Envy a Good Thing?

Here's how the negative emotion of envy can be harnessed for positive change.

Four Easy Ways to Exercise Your Creativity

The purpose of these exercises is to condition your mind to quickly make new connections or combinations between two or more existing items or ideas.

What Are You Missing?

Sometimes our minds change the actual things we see to match our worldview.

Confessions of a Mr. Mom

My Dad passed away when I was 19; it was a loss that would deeply influence every aspect of my being a parent.

I Stole the Hope Diamond and Caught Leprosy

“There was this one time, when I was twelve years old, that I accidentally stole something. And, I probably shouldn’t be talking about it because I could still get trouble for it.”

There’s No Such Thing as Being Stubborn

Just because I won’t budge doesn’t make me stubborn. Throwing a hissy fit isn’t going to change me. Calling me stubborn is YOU being lazy.

Your Opinion SUCKS!

A willingness to make yourself uncomfortable by considering contrary opinions will stimulate your ability to think more creatively.

Loving Yourself: a How-to Guide

When I used to beat myself up over failures. People would say, “Rob, you need to love yourself .” That sounded great, but the problem was I didn’t know what that meant.

Fear Works; but Why the Hell Would You Use It?

He slashed the air like a sword fighter in a movie, “If anybody messes with me, I’m gonna cut ‘em good.”

Sometimes You Have to Hide Your Fear

I didn’t feel qualified, but it was lead or get fired.

Integrity's Invisible Influence

Employees don’t want to feel taken advantage of by their employer, or that they are being squeezed for all they’ve got.

A Day of Death, Fear, and Lost Innocence

I heard this story 18 years ago, and was deeply moved by the drama these young boys endured for the better part of day. One of them would later relate that it felt as they were reliving the book "The Lord of the Flies."

The Pursuit of Pure Joy

Joy seemed to come so much easier when we were children, now it seems like we spend the rest of our lives trying to find those precious moments again. So what is joy, and how can we find it as adults?

Well, Speak of the Devil

How often do you notice coincidences? Do you attach any meaning to them? Is there a unseen power or force which directs particular events to happen such that we consider them coincidences?

Dissecting the Guts of Motivation

Motivation is the process of solving problems. The contrast between ‘what we want’ and ‘what we have’ is what motivates us. The contrast is the problem. The more the contrast, the stronger the motivation.

Don’t Be an ASSumer

If you find yourself hurt or angry from an assumption, then you are giving into fear. That is your issue. Now is the time to examine your fear and deal directly with it.

It’s Not About You

Don’t take it personally when someone puts you down. Don’t assume you know what is going on inside of their head. They have their own issues which they are likely projecting onto you.

Words vs. Actions

When someone, whom we consider to be an authority, tells us something - good or bad - about ourselves, we accept it and make it part of our internal belief system. ... And, then there are actions...

Feeling Good

The trick is recognizing the negative thoughts as soon as they begin before they have a chance to dominate your thinking and turn your good feelings into bad ones.

Procrastination Is Really About Fear

Getting all your ducks in a row before you can start is a problem with perfectionism. And, perfectionism is procrastination. You are procrastinating because you have a fear of failure. You are looking at the big picture, when all you need to look at is the first step.