Growing Confident: Parenting to Shatter Boundaries

If we are not willing to be vulnerable – to feel just a little bit unsafe – we will never bump into our boundaries hard enough to shatter them.

The Power of Permission

The only permission that makes you truly happy is that which you give to yourself.

A Happier Marriage Through Fantasy Football

When our friends invited us to join a couples-only fantasy football league, I had no idea how much it would impact our marriage.

The Pleasure Trap

If you’re like me, you have this nasty habit of bestowing upon one person or another the dubious and monumental task of making you happy. Here's why you shouldn't do that.

Use Your Words

Letting go is not about suppressing one’s feelings. Quite the contrary. Letting go involves acknowledging what you’re feeling, deliberately choosing not to indulge the internal monologue those feelings may inspire, and deciding to move on to the next moment of your day unencumbered by those feelings. For some people, like me, this takes practice.

Do All That You Can to Be a Worthy Partner...Within Reason

Adapting to suit your relationship is not about changing who you are. It's about learning new behaviors that will enable growth. Your quirks and idiosyncrasies—your essential qualities of character—don’t vanish when you learn something new. Learning how to be a better partner will help to ensure that you’ll always have someone with whom you can share these qualities.

Relationship Trouble?

Where to focus first when your relationship is in trouble.

How to Have a Great Argument: An Application of Mindfulness

Arguments are inevitable in most relationships. But transforming an argument into a meaningful discussion in real-time is possible. Here's how.

National Public Display of Affection Day? How Touching!

Today is the day when we as a nation can celebrate the very human impulse to grope, fondle, and open-mouth-kiss one another in the company of mildly disgusted strangers. Today is National Public Display of Affection Day. I can't wait to tell my wife.

A Case for Saying Stupid Things

I was in my office attempting to stick my leg behind my head when Kristen called me, which was strange. Though I call Kristen no fewer than a dozen times a day to check in and chat about whatever I’m working on or thinking about, she normally doesn’t call me unless she really needs something.

How to Live Together: a Relationship Between Time and Space

When my wife Kristen and I moved in together, I was overjoyed. I wanted to be around her 24 hours a day, but ironically I needed time to myself in order to be good company. Sound familiar? If so, here are a few simple ways to get the time and space you need without straining your relationship.

Combatting Asperger's: A Losing Proposition

When I realized that my marriage was in trouble largely because of my behaviors and detachment from my wife, Kristen, I initially blamed Asperger’s. I thought the only way to save our marriage was to somehow conquer my disorder. Fortunately, Kristen did what she always does when I lose sight of the big picture: She smiled, knowingly, and then showed me a different way.