You know this whole “Introverts Rule!” thing that’s happening all over the Internet? (The Introvernet?) As much as I feel partly responsible for it—let’s take a breath. The message I’ve tried to get across here and in my book is that introversion is fine, there’s nothing wrong with it, there’s lots that’s right about it. And I’m all about finding ways to own and honor our introversion, to make it work for us in the world outside our heads.
But a lot of what’s happening out there goes a step further, insisting that introversion is superior to extroversion, that extroverts are a bunch of noisy airheads compared to deep, thoughtful, creative introverts.
And what’s more, whatever we do is just fine and if you object in any way you just don’t get it! So what if I break dates at the last minute because I’m not in the mood? I’m an introvert! That’s what I do! So what if I’m surly at family gatherings? I’m an introvert! You can’t make me talk!
Maybe I’m just cranky because we’ve had a long hot spell here in Texas and my allergies are acting up and I’ve had to deal with expensive plumbing problems recently and I’m a little stressed about money and, frankly, I’ve been alone too much, but … stop it!
Believe it or not, introverts can be annoying too. I’ve gathered some thoughts via various sources and would like to share with you some really annoying things we do in our relationships:
Do any of these sound like you? Then you just might be annoying. Time for a little navel gazing (which we do so well). Or initiate a conversation with the extroverts in your life and see whether there are things you're doing that are harming your relationship. And if you think of other things, bring 'em on. I'm just cranky enough to be able to take it.
P.S. Has this post annoyed you? Before you scold, perhaps read this Message to All The Annoyed Introverts.
Check out my books, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After; The Introverts Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World; and 100 Places in the USA Every Woman Should Go. Support your local independent bookstore; click here to find an indie near you.