You know what your introverted sweetheart probably wouldn’t appreciate? Being proposed to at a packed ballpark, on the Jumbotron. That grand but misguided gesture alone might be reason to decline.
Sure, we like your eyes on us, but not the eyes of thousands of strangers. We have nothing against grand gestures, but not in public, please. We die a thousand little deaths when the restaurant staff gathers ‘round to sing Happy Birthday. We are filled with fear and loathing at the idea of a singing telegram or (worse) a stripper-gram. We don’t want you to drop to a knee in the middle of a restaurant to declare your love. You don’t have to shout it for all the world to hear. No, really. It’s fine. We believe you.
(Note to all introverts who would like any of those things: Obviously, I wasn’t talking about you. I was talking about other introverts.)
Of course introverts want to be wooed—who doesn’t? But if you want to woo the introvert’s way, turn the volume down a few notches. Make it intimate, keep it calm, step into the introvert’s world.
Some ideas for introvert-friendly loving gestures, big and small. I’m timing this for Valentine’s Day, of course, but these are all-purpose for any time you want to put stars in an introvert’s eyes.
Other ideas, wise introverts?
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