Thanks to everyone who responded to my survey about meeting introverts! I am happy to share the results and some of the comments over the next couple of posts. I will draw no conclusions, but at least it gives us all something to think about.
As someone mentioned, it would have been useful to know if respondents were male or female, to which I say DOH! Of course I should have asked. But if we assume that respondents were pretty well balanced between male and female (as it seems readers of this blog are), then the results indicate that male and female feel similarly. In general, this survey was far from perfect or even remotely scientific, but it elicited some great comments.
Of the 608 respondents to the survey, 547 identified as introverts, 13 as extroverts, and 47 consider themselves an equal balance of both.
A miniscule majority, 50.6% of respondents (280 people) have no preference when it comes to dating introverts or extroverts.
And surprise, suprise, a lot of people love them some introverts!
Among the 186 introverts with a preference, 183 of those prefer dating other introverts. Not only that, of the 88 extroverts with a preference, 81 also said they prefer dating introverts. (Three people skipped the question.)
As a few people pointed out, questions three and four were all but identical, so today we will look at those, In my next post, we'll talk about favorite ways to meet new people.
A large majority of introverts—82.8%—are OK with being chatted up in public places, with caveats.
Generally, they want their "don't talk to me" vibe respected. That is, if they appear focused on their book or work, if they have headphones on, if their body language says "go away," then go away. Quite a few said that if they didn't want to talk, they would stay home.
But introverts also want the conversation to be interesting and not just random chitchat or your entire life story. And please be sensitive to unspoken messages that they are done talking. Don't wear out your welcome.
Only 20.5% of introverts said that they don't want anyone talking to them in coffee shops or bookstores, no way, no how. The rest are cool with it—again, if it's done right.
Some introverts' comments:
And a few extroverts' comments:
My book, The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World, is available for pre-order on Amazon. It will be released December 4, just in time for party/festive/family-togetherness season. You know you need it.