People Get So Immersed in Their Children’s Happiness That They Lose Sight of Their Own

Caren writes often about issues that touch on the subject of happiness, so I was interested to hear what she had to say.

5 Mistakes I Continue To Make in My Marriage

A friend told me that of everything I’ve written on this blog, this post was his favorite. So I decided to re-post it today, updated and expanded.

Can Refusing To Give Compliments Be an Act of Love?

My spiritual master is St. Therese of Lisieux, so when a thoughtful reader emailed me about Heather King’s 2011 memoir, Shirt of Flame: A Year with Saint Therese of Lisieux, I was thrilled—and astounded that I hadn’t heard about it yet.

Do You Have Any “Tells” That Show That You’re Feeling Stressed?

I really work on paying attention to the clues my self is giving myself. For instance, I think of myself in the third person. That allows me to manage myself better.

What Do I Know Now About Happiness? That I Can Make It Happen

I’ve met so many terrific people through the world of blogging, and one great friend is Sarah Bryden-Brown.

What Did Johnny Cash Write in His To-Do List?

I love lists in every form, whether by me or by other people.

I’m Very Happy, Today My Book Hits the Shelves, and It’s My Anniversary

I can’t quite believe this, but today is the publication day for my book. As of today, Happier at Home out in the world, available for sale at bookstores near you.

You Know What Detracts From Happiness? Rushing

I know the delightful Leah because Becky, one of her close friends growing up, was one of my college roommates.

Want To Be Happier At Home? 7 Reasons To Read My New Book

My new book, Happier at Home, comes out in less than a week, zoikes. So brace yourself, here comes some promotion!You’ve been warned.

Question: What Small Treats Do You Give Yourself?

By some odd coincidence, two readers emailed me to ask for the link to this post, an "Assay" about “small treats,” so I decided to re-post it today.

Fill In the Blank: _____ Is a Good Servant But a Bad Master

I love to collect variations on phrases: “X is the new Y,” “Forties are the new thirties,” “Halloween is the new Christmas.”

Find It Hard To Wake Up in the Morning? Try Stretching

Every morning, first thing, to help myself wake up (it is 6:00 a.m., after all), I spend a minute or so stretching. This isn’t a rigorous or carefully designed set of stretches

For Your Consideration: 7 Reasons to Read "Happier at Home"

My new book, Happier at Home, comes out in a few weeks—on my wedding anniversary, which seems auspicious for a book about happiness at home.

No Time for Something Important to You? Try Getting Up Earlier

Of all the changes in my daily routine wrought by my happiness project, one of the most fundamental is that I get up at 6 a.m., every day.

What's Your Favorite Line from a Children's Picture Book?

Recently, I made a list of some of my favorite lines from classic children’s picture books. This is my favorite kind of thing to do.

Why the Internet Makes Me Happy. Also Drives Me Crazy, But Makes Me Happy

People talk a lot about the happiness risks of the internet, such as how online shopping or celebrity news can suck away our time, or how Facebook can foster comparison with other people.

Tips for Handling Criticism

I have a very tough time being criticized, corrected, or accused—of even the smallest mistakes—and I react very angrily. I’ve wrestled this instinct under control in a professional context, more or less, but I have more trouble with it at home.

Happiness Is…a Good Book. So, a New Feature! A Book Club!

My favorite thing to do is to read. In fact, reading and writing are practically the only activities I truly love. Which is a bit sad, but true. Because I love reading so much, nothing makes me happier than recommending terrific books—so I’m starting a book club.

Try Not To Talk in a Mean Voice. Try Again. And Again

So much of my Happiness Project is aimed at helping me curb my very strong tendency to “talk in a mean voice” or “make a mean face” (which is how my daughters refer to this behavior). In a flash of irritation or anger, I snarl at my sweet daughters or my good-natured husband.

4 Important Ways to Show Love, Identified by Divorced People

Recently, the Wall Street Journal had an interesting piece by Elizabeth Bernstein on The Divorce’s Guide to Marriage.

Be Wary of the Goal of “Moderation,” Plus a Cocktail-Party Trick

Assay: I’ve been thinking a lot about moderation lately.

What Resolution (Successfully Kept) Would Make You Happiest?

On Fridays, I usually suggest a resolution for you to consider for your own happiness project–something like Make your bed or Imitate a spiritual master or Cultivate good smells.

7 Tips to Boost Your Energy Fast

A feeling of energy is a key to feeling happy. Studies show that when you feel energetic, you feel much better about yourself. On the other hand, when you feel exhausted, tasks that would ordinarily make you happy—like putting up holiday decorations, getting ready to go to a party, or planning a trip—make you feel overwhelmed and blue.

A Surprising Happiness Booster? Cleaning My Office

One of my favorite Secrets of Adulthood: Outer order contributes to inner calm. Clutter seems like a trivial matter, but I always find that I feel more serene and cheerful if my apartment and office aren’t too messy.

Want To Have More Fun? Go On a Mission

Writer Jean Stafford scoffed, “Happy people don’t need to have fun,” but in fact, studies show that the absence of feeling bad isn’t enough to make you feel good; you must strive to find sources of feeling good.

My TEDxNew Haven Talk: Five Half-Truths About Happiness.

A few months ago, I gave a talk at the TEDxNewHaven on “Five Half-Truths About Happiness.”

Want a Great Meal? Try One of These Three Combinations for “Perfection”

Even though I don’t like to cook, and I’m no foodie, I nevertheless enjoy the food writing of M.F.K. Fisher. Several of her classic books are collected in The Art of Eating, which includes the essay “From A to Z: The Perfect Dinner,” from An Alphabet for Gourmets.

Is Your World Filled With People Who Are “Radiators” or “Drains”?

The novel’s narrator made an observation that has stuck with me.

For 25 Hours Each Week: No Email. No Phone. I Don't Make Anything

I became intrigued with Josh Foer’s bestselling book, Moonwalking with Einstein: The Art and Science of Remembering Everything, because it’s a kind of “memory project.”

Watch Out For the “I’m Right, You’re Wrong” Conversation

I thought I’d identified some obscure, rare pattern of human interaction, but it turns out that lots of people had already identified this kind of interaction.