A Memoir and a List of Loopholes Used to Justify Drinking

Do you have a favorite loophole, that you find yourself turning to most often?

Do You Keep a Contented Heart? I Work at This.

One of my most frequent faults is fretfulness...

Secrets of Adulthood...

Agree, disagree?

Lessons From Happiness and Habits to Help Me Buy a Backpack

Some people love finishing, and some people love opening—both literally and figuratively.

Why We Shouldn’t Reward Ourselves for Good Habits

In large part because the lesson is: be very wary of using rewards to master habits!

What My Husband Taught Me About Unpacking

When I was younger, I followed the “unpack as necessary” approach. I’d leave my suitcase open on the floor, and take out things as I needed them...it took a few days to empty the suitcase.

Secret of Adulthood: Accept Ourselves...

We must strive to know ourselves, and accept the truth about ourselves.

What One Thing Is Most Important?

Agree, disagree? How would you fill in the blank?

Have You Ever Felt a “Call” to Do a Certain Kind of Work?

A call means no choice — or at least, great pain in making another choice.

Sometimes, You Have to Work Hard to Be Lazy

I’ve learned that if something is important to me, I should find a way to put it on my calendar.

How Negativity Can Poison Your Relationships

Not “interviewing for pain” seems to me to be excellent advice for dealing with children–and also adults.

Secret of Adulthood: Lose Yourself to Find Yourself.

Sometimes we have to lose our way in order to find our way.

How Does a Rebel Change Habits?

I love it when people tell me about their ingenious ways of working with their Tendency, in order to change their habits.

Something Becomes Important Because We’re Paying Attention

It’s our listening that makes a conversation important; it’s our vision that makes a masterpiece; it’s our love that makes a face stand out from the crowd.

Are Souls Like Athletes...

The seven storey mountain is the mountain of Purgatory that must be climbed to reach Paradise.

Want to Change a Habit?

I truly do believe that it’s possible for us to change our habits—even when we’ve failed before.

I Had a Very Odd Experience at the Gym

For a moment, I was someone different. Not very different, but different nevertheless.

Are You Unnecessarily Severe with Yourself and Your Habits?

Although I have so many strategies and ideas that I’ve identified to help people master their habits, to my surprise, I frequently find myself making the case against changing a habit.

Like Gollum, Do You Have Something Precious?

Here’s the tie to habits: I’ve noticed that many people have a habit that makes them unhappy—one that they know drains them, isn’t good for them, or causes them grief.

Do You Know Your “Tell?”

Self-knowledge is one of the greatest challenges for happiness and good habits.

To Be Creative, What Are the Best Habits to Follow?

When we shape our habits to suit our own nature, our own interests, and our own values, we set ourselves up for success.

One Surprising Secret to Changing Yourself for the Better

Because accountability is so important, I’m always looking for new, ingenious ways that people have created accountability.

A Happy Habit: Celebrating Valentine’s Breakfast

For minor holidays, these days, I prepare a “holiday breakfast.”

Which of These 4 Stories Do You Tell Yourself About Money?

The article notes that these “scripts” often run through our heads outside our conscious awareness of them.

Do You Feel a Pull Toward Work or a Pull Toward Leisure?

Intellectually, I embrace leisure, but still, I hear that “work, work, work” whisper in my brain.

Before & After:Obliger Figures Out How To Exercise Regularly

Occasionally, I post an interesting before-and-after story submitted by a reader about how he or she successfully changed a habit. I love to hear people’s stories about habit change.

The Perfect Office Design

Most of us can’t change much about the design of our offices, but these elements at least furnish a few ideas.

Do You Ever Yield to a Temptation...

We tell ourselves that we’re acting out of consideration for others and making generous, unselfish decisions. Or, more strategically, we decide we must do something in order to fit in to a social situation.

Quiz Yourself: What Kind of Play Do You Enjoy?

For a happy life, it’s not enough to have an absence of bad feelings — we also need sources of good feelings.

Did the Quiz Help You Determine Your Tendency?

I’m very gratified that so many thousands of people have taken the quiz — and even more gratified by the notes at the end. The comments are fascinating.