Do You Resist When Anyone Asks or Tells You to Do Something?

Many experts suggest a magical, one-size-fits-all solution, but we all know from experience, that alas, such an answer doesn’t exist.

Can a Vine Behave like an Olive Tree? No.

We can’t change our fundamental nature. We have to form the habits that work for us.

How to Make an Exception to Your Rules

How can we make an exception to a good habit, without disrupting that good habit

Why the Issues that We Ignore Often Come Back to Plague Us

All too often, the areas of our lives that we decide to ignore can become the areas that dominate our lives, later. And not in a good way.

A Strategy to Manage Your Time That You've Never Thought Of

In one week, this has resulted in me having the fortitude to address dreaded tasks for her, because after all, tomorrow is MY day.

Secret of Adulthood: Don’t Believe Everything You Think

With a lot of loopholes — especially those in the Questionable Assumptions category — if you look at them closely, you realize that you don’t really believe what you think.

Agree, Disagree? September Is the Other January

Do you feel inspired to turn over a new leaf in September?

From the Gods Who Sit in Grandeur...

Zeus, who guided men to think, who has laid it down that wisdom comes alone through suffering.

Instead of Feeling That I’m Never Going to Finish…

How about you? Do you do better with small changes or big changes?

7 Ways to Just Get It Done

Often, I know I’d be happier if I do something I really don’t feel like doing.

A New Experience: I Was in the Napa Valley Earthquake

As I was lying there, I felt the earthquake hit.

Which Virtue Gives Other Virtues Their “Principal Lustre”?

“Self-command is not only itself a great virtue, but from it all the other virtues seem to derive their principal lustre.”

Are You “Addicted” to Something?

Sometimes, a behavior that one person considers to be healthy and positive is viewed as another person as extreme and negative.

5 Ways to Make Your Day Work for You

Habits are easier when they feel like treats. Try never to let yourself feel deprived.

Accept Yourself, and Expect More From Yourself

Is there an area where you struggle to decide whether to “accept yourself” or to “expect more from myself”?

13 Tips for Getting More Reading Done

Of my hundreds of happiness-project resolutions, and of the habits I’ve tried to form, one of my very favorites is to read more.

When Facing Temptation, Are You an All-or-Nothing Person?

One of my big conclusions: if you want to change a habit, you should start by understanding yourself.

Why I’ve Grown Wary of Accepting Anything That’s Free

Because I’m focused on clutter-busting, I’m now very wary of anything that’s free.

Have Any Toys From Childhood That Are Still Important?

For some reason, I lay awake last night thinking about toys. Do you have any toys or “comfort objects” from childhood that are still important to you?

A Key to Good Habits? Don’t Allow Ourselves to Feel Deprived

Do you find that deprivation makes you feel justified in indulging or breaking a good habit?

Are You Chronically Late? 8 Tips for Showing Up on Time

Many people have the habit of constantly running late — and they drive themselves, and other people, crazy.

The Danger of the Finish Line

One thing that took me a long time to realize, in the study of habits: the danger of finish lines.

Has a “Clean Slate” Ever Led You to a Major Habit Change?

The fresh start, the do-over, or the new year is a crucial time, because it offers tremendous opportunity for forming new habits - but it can also pose great risk to existing habits that we want to maintain.

Lost Your Keys Again? Eight Tips to Find Misplaced Objects

Keeping track of my stuff. Not being able to find something is a minor challenge to happiness, of course—but it’s one of those minor things that can make me crazy.

Further Secrets of Adulthood — for Habits

For years, I’ve been writing my “Secrets of Adulthood,” which are the principles I’ve managed to grasp as I’ve become an adult.

Can You Add to This List of Famous Upholders...

I want to provide examples of the Rubin Tendencies from well-known movies, TV shows, and literature, or from memoirs, autobiographies, or biographies.

What are Your Treats?

What exactly counts as a “treat?” A treat is different from a reward, which must be justified or earned. A treat is a small pleasure or indulgence that we give to ourselves just because we want it.

A Better Way to Wake Up

I knew from experience that setting my alarm to 6 A.M. when I was used to 8 P.M. wasn’t going to work in the long run, so I instead committed to pushing the time back for just 15 minutes once a week to give my brain a better chance of adapting.

Want to Read About Writing?

Okay I must stop, or I’ll end up quoting dozens of passages.

Want to Know Yourself Better, to Shape Your Habits Better?

It’s hard, however, to know ourselves. And it’s hard to know the aspects of our nature that are relevant to how we might form habits.

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