“Treats” may sound like a self-indulgent, frivolous strategy, but it’s not: Forming good habits can be draining, and treats can play an important role. When we give ourselves treats, we feel energized, cared for, and contented, which boosts our self-command—and self-command helps us maintain healthy habits.
Studies show that people who got a little treat—receiving a surprise gift or watching a funny video—gained in self-control. It’s a Secret of Adulthood: If I give more to myself, I can ask more from myself. Self-regard isn’t selfish.
When we don’t get any treats, we begin to feel burned-out, depleted, and resentful.
The other day, a friend told me, “I don’t give myself any treats," which led me to two different lines of thought:
For something to be a treat, we have to think of it as a treat; and then we make something a treat by calling it a “treat.” When we notice our pleasure, and relish it, the experience becomes much more of a treat. Even something as humble as herbal tea or a box of freshly sharpened pencils can qualify as a treat. For instance, once I realized how much I love beautiful smells, a whole new world of treats opened up to me.
We should all strive to have a big menu of healthy treats, so that we can recharge our batteries frequently, and in healthy ways. Sometimes, treats don’t even look like treats. For example, to my surprise, many people consider ironing a “treat.” (To read other examples of people’s quirky treats, look here and here.)
Do you find that when you give yourself healthy treats, it’s easier to stick to your good habits? What healthy treats are on your list?
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