One of the themes of the book is this: If we want to foster habits successfully, we must know ourselves. People often assume that the same approach will work for everyone, that the same habits will work for everyone, and that everyone has the same aptitude and appetite for forming habits, but from my observation, that’s not true.
For instance, it was to try to understand the varieties of human nature that I came up with the four Character Tendencies. (Formerly known as the Rubin Tendencies, until some folks objected… still trying to come up with a better name, suggestions welcome.)
It’s hard, however, to know ourselves. And it’s hard to know the aspects of our nature that are relevant to how we might form habits.
I came up with a list of questions to help me understand myself better. Consider for yourself…
The rhythm of my days
Do you find any of these questions particularly helpful, in thinking about what habits you might like to acquire, and how you might structure them for greater success?
For instance, a while back, in a similar context, I posted the question, “Do you like competition?” and a reader commented that once he read that question, he realized that every time he’d successfully exercised, there had been an element of competition, which he loved. So he changed up his exercise habit to include competition, with great success.
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