For many people, I’ve noticed, the element of Happier at Home that resonates most is the discussion of relationships.

Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree that a key to happiness–probably the key to happiness–is strong relationships with other people, so while I didn’t set out to write a “relationship” book, I’m happy to hear that the book is helping people so much in that area.

We all want a loving, attentive, and engaged atmosphere in our home. And warm relationships will do more than anything to make our home a happy place.

For that reason, in honor of the New Year, I’ve organized a 21 Day Relationship Challenge.

Here’s how it will work. Every morning, for three weeks, you’ll get an  email with a resolution for you to try at home, as a way to strengthen your bonds with others. They’re some of my favorites from Happier at Home, plus a few longtime stalwarts.

In just twenty-one days, you really can take many small steps–without spending much time, energy, or money–to deepen your relationships.

In addition to the emails, each day I’ll post here so we’ll have the opportunity to exchange ideas and experiences with others doing the Challenge. We can all learn from each other, so I hope you join the discussion.

Join the Challenge here. Learn more about it here.

The Challenge officially starts on Monday, January 14 (part of the zest of New Year’s resolution, but with a slight delay so the dust can settle after the holidays). But you can join any time, even long after the start date has passed.

Here’s a short video

Relationships are just one aspect of Happier at Home; it also examines other aspects of “home” such as possessions, time, body, and neighborhood. And it goes deeper into the subject of relationships than we can do in the 21 Day Challenge. But I hope this exercise will be FUN as well as challenging, and helpful.

Join in! A great way to start 2013.

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