How to Have a Happy Thanksgiving with Difficult Relatives

Here are some strategies for keeping Thanksgiving dinner — or any holiday gathering, at any time of the year — pleasant.

The Smell of a Hallway Taught Me Something Important

For some reason, this hallway smelled exactly like the hospital where I worked as a candy-striper in high school.

How to Get an Extra Hour in Your Day

This is the right way to use the end of Daylight Savings Time, and to build momentum for the months ahead.

I Forgot to Take My Own Advice

Celebrating minor holidays is one way to make time stand out. Because this day was unusual, it’s more memorable.

Have to Give a Toast, Speech, or Presentation?

Fear of public speaking or performance is a big happiness stumbling block.

The Most Effective Way to Convince People to Evacuate?

How might a mayor word an evacuation notice, to persuade people of all Four Tendencies?

Back to School:

The question is: how can we help children form habits that will help them handle this load, without our constant nagging and supervising?

7 Tips for Clearing Clutter in the Office

Outer order contributes to inner calm — for most people. But not for everyone.

Do You Enjoy Listening to a Spirited Discussion...

I do find that sometimes I find it entertaining to hear a spirited discussion about something I know nothing about–whether that’s basketball, the Grammy Awards, the Real Housewives

News Flash: Watching TV with Your Sweetheart...

After all, after sleeping and work, watching TV is the biggest consumer of the world’s time.

Struggle to Give Up an Object that Once Served You Well?

Mementos serve as important reminders of the people, places, and activities we love, and dear objects make our homes feel more homey.

Is There One “Best” Type of Temperament? Or Tendency?

People often ask me questions like, “What’s the best Tendency?” “Which Tendency tends to be the most successful?” “Which Tendency has the happiest people?”

5 Tips to Deal With Insomnia

I violated one of the most basic back-to-sleep tips — the tip to get up, rather than toss and turn.

Struggling With Tasks That You Don’t Want to Do?

The chore that feels onerous today may give you a huge boost of satisfaction tomorrow, when it’s behind you.

I Make a Good Happiness Choice, and a Bad Happiness Choice

We talk a lot about the problem of procrastinating work in order to goof off. But sometimes, we procrastinate goofing off in order to work.

3 Things My Puppy Taught Me About Happiness

If you have a pet, what has your pet taught you about happiness?

Have You Ever Read Anything That Made You Think...

Rarely have I read a single line that was so powerful in its context.

Got the Urge to Do Some Spring Cleaning?

One of the things about happiness that continually surprises me is the degree to which, for most people, outer order contributes to inner calm, and inner self-command.

Have You Ever Been Made Happier by a “Modest Splurge?”

I remind myself that sometimes, it makes me happy to indulge in a modest splurge—to buy something that I don’t absolutely need, but that makes my day brighter in some way.

Are You Clutter-Blind? Or Do You Know Someone Who Is?

The fact is, very often, people in a couple or in a group have different levels of tolerance for clutter, and the ones with the least tolerance end up doing the most tidying...

Are You a Worrier? Three Tips to Worry Less

Are you a “worrier”? Have you found some good strategies to manage your worrying?

Why It Doesn’t Matter Much Whether You’re a Man or a Woman

But in general, in my observation, for any particular person, individual differences swamp gender differences.

Take a Look at These Signs

Here are some signs that have definite special appeal to one particular Tendency.

There Is in This World No Function More Important

Though I must say, it seems to be slightly overstating the case to say that there’s no function more important than being charming.

Be Selfless, If Only for Selfish Reasons...

This is a variation of my Second Splendid Truth about Happiness.

Always Late? 9 Tips for Overcoming Chronic Lateness.

Many people have the habit of constantly running late — and they drive themselves, and other people, crazy.

Lonely? 5 Habits to Consider to Combat Loneliness.

Loneliness feels draining, distracting, and upsetting; desired solitude feels peaceful, creative, restorative.

Why I Decided to Let Myself Take the Elevator

And I stood there, I was thinking about exercise, habits, excuses, convenience, and the advice of every exercise-habit-expert in the world...

Don’t Fall for the Common Habits Myth!

What is this myth? It’s the myth that there’s a magic, one-size-fits-all solution for habit change.

Want to Make 2016 a Happier Year?

I divided the year into twelve categories — each month, I worked on a different area of my life where I wanted to make myself happier.

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