Pigeons

For the past few years, for the weekly video as part of the Happiness Challenge, I've proposed a resolution for your consideration—a concrete, manageable resolution to boost your happiness (at least, one that has boosted my happiness).

I'm considering changing the format of the videos for next year. One possibility is to have readers post comments about the aspects of life that drag them down—then I'd discuss (I wouldn't give advice, but I'd discuss) those issues in the videos.

Because, as much as we try to follow the Bluebird of Happiness, we're also plagued by the Pigeon of Discontent. A Pigeon of Discontent isn't a major happiness challenge, but an ordinary problem that has settled into roost. For example: you're always exhausted; you fight with your in-laws; your house is a wreck; you feel panicked when you think of how far behind you've fallen on making photo albums.

I'm not sure whether this format will work, so I have a favor to ask: If you have a readily identifiable "pigeon of discontent," please post it here. Having an idea of how people would answer this question will help me decide whether this would be an interesting, useful path to take.

So: What is your Pigeon of Discontent? What relatively small and ordinary issue drags down your happiness?

* Is your book group reading The Happiness Project? Email me if you'd like the one-page discussion guide—or the discussion guide for spirituality book groups, Bible study groups, and the like—at gretchenrubin1@gretchenrubin.com. Happy reading!

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